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Gee, all of a sudden I can't wait for my next birthday. Thanks, Christopher!

now thats what life and love are all about xxxxx

a man in his 40s and a boy who was sixteen when their relationship began...?

Haven't a number of recent female high-school teachers gone to jail recently for the same thing? I think it's called statutory rape--or at the least wildly inappropriate.

Sorry--just because I am gay, I don't feel compelled to embrace this story. In fact, on the surface, this sort of thing confirms a lot of stereotypes about the "predatory" nature of gay men.

creepy @_@

This is a truly fantastic, touching story with a ton of great humor. I recommend everyone check it out. it's very well produced and a fascinating story.

maybe you need to see the movie before you decide what's predatory and creepy.
super moving. and a testament to true love.

donnie I totally agree...I do not care if this was a happy ending, it was wrong..for any straight or gay person to be with someone that young, a well establish 48 yr old could not find/meet someone closer to his age...its perverted...

This has always been my issue with older gays, the obsession with youth..and they nock us down when we reject them, when they do the same..the are rejecting their own age group when the are chasing after the younger guys...

romantic...yeah right...its just creepy...

Donnie,

I know, felt somewhat creepy too.. Doesn't follow that rule of No Younger than 1/2 your age plus 7

But there is a difference between this and what those teachers were doing.

1) 16 is the age of consent, those teachers started with those boys at 12,13,14.

2) no formal teacher-student relationship. Those teacher would be fired but not arrested if the relationship started after the boy's age of consent

* last year I dated a much much younger guy for a little while. He was 23 but I was older than his mother ( I do look much younger than my age ). He had no problems with it.... but I felt pseudo-pedophilic over it. Had to let it go.

while i agree that this smacks of predatory sex, i disagree with rentero's statement above. people are not always attracted to their own age group, and there are a lot of younger gay men who like older men. anyone obsessed with anyone based on age has some problems. but just because older men like younger men doesn't make it wrong, as long as certain legal age limits are observed.

personally, i'm 42, and am attracted to men of different ages, provided they're fit, active, intelligent, curious about the world, etc. unfortunately, a lot of guys my age are very stuck in the middle aged rut that affects a lot of people. i'm not a peter pan, i don't want a son, but i do find attractive vitality, and it is sorely lacking in men past 35.

i don't knock down any younger man that rejects me on age. it's all a matter of attraction, like any other barometer.

A 46 year old and a 16 year old. What do they talk about: the kid's report card? The senior's AARP membership? Why would anyone want to "celebrate" this emotional train wreck?

And for the record, I am in my early 50s, and no one appreciate a hot looking young guy more than I do. But the operative word is look.

guys...we're not talking about "younger guys" IMO--we are talking about children. Think of how "mature" you were at the tender age of 16--while there may be a few exceptions, the majority of people that age are still trying to figure out who they are and they are highly suggestible.

It's okay to disgree on issues--we all don't have to accept or approve of this just because these two happen to have the same orientation that we do.

Just curious--among those who are defending this, how many of you also think that NAMBLA is also acceptable?

BTW--lest I be accused of being an ageist, I am in my early forties...

Just because I'm gay doesn't make me a NAMBLA supporter. Sex between two consenting adults is one thing. This is just a predatory older gentleman seducing a kid who wasn't old enough to give consent. Blech.

The relationship did stand the test of time though.

I dont feel compelled to support this just because theyre gay. It's gross. 16 year old guys like 16 year old girls should be with guys their own age. This is something where pride and acceptance should be nowhere near.

My bf is 22 and I am 53.
Believe me, it scared me when we started, but now we feel completely at ease with each other and our friends have accepted us and the age gap.
We live today. Tomorrow is a mistery.
And we both ar consenting adults.
My bf is riper then many 50-year old men I have met .....and he is a partner to me, not a son. We both contribute to the household, financially and practically..
But .. I wonder why I am defending myself. hey .. I am happy with the situaton and so is he... for those who do not want to respect it the message is.. take a leap to the moon...

H & S