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Everyone is entitled to their own fatasies, the line of cheating is always drown by the intention, so if are not looking to cheat on ur boyfriend and as long as it's just a mind thing it would be ok...
Still u should look into into it, if u really can only cum while fantasizing with others then somehing is clearly missing. Talk to ur boyfriend... not the fantasy part but tell him that u need to spice it up... hope is of help

I watched a show once on sex. It said that females only have one womb and one chance to obtain the best seed possible. The pick the best man they can find and mate with him. Men, on the other hand, have infinite seeds and want to spread them to as many women as possible (to increase the chance that their genes will live on). It was basically asserting that it is in men's evolutionary nature to cheat. VARIETY IS IN OUR GENES. Just because you are emotionally attached to your lover does not mean he can shape-shift. There's nothing wrong with using your imagination.

Ive heard of people being so porn obsessed that they cant get off with out... Like it has to be on in the background for them to cum even when having sex. I mean if your concerend and you think thats the direction you might be heading... why not try to slow down a little and maybe jerk off a lil less and focus on him a lil more? I dont mean that fantasy is bad but you seem like its becoming an issue for you, fantsay should be fun not a chore neccacary to have sex with your bf... i look at alot of porn too and jerk off alot and i sometiomes wonder if im not getting a little addicted. If you can help it id say try to put your bf before just blowin your load.

Problem one: You "need" to fantasize to achieve satisfaction. Fantasy is normal, not being able to achieve satisfaction UNLESS you fantasize, however, is not fair to you or your partner. Neither of you is actually "there" during your most intimate moments!

Problem two: You haven't talked with your partner about your needs. You're right, if you tell him the wrong way it won't end well; Your "need" to fantasize DOES say something and even if you believe it's really about YOU, how can he NOT feel it's about him?

It's possible it's just a habit you've gotten yourself into. Habits are a bitch to break, but wouldn't this be worth it?

i think of other guys when my boyfriend jerks me off, but i don't when i fuck him. i have the impression it is the same for him.

i thought of talking about it with him, but what would that bring? nothing positive i think. there are certain things i consider shouldn't be mentioned within a relationship.

i don't think that's cheating, but if you have to think about other guys everytime you have sex with your boyfriend i would think that your boyfriend is not satisfying you sexually, which is a problem.

Sex becomes more complicated within the confines of a relationship. There can be underlying NON-sexual issues between two people that somehow affect the quality of their sex. I know that I have the best sex with my partner when we can be the most intimate. If there's anything impeding that intimacy, the sex is just off or just fucking (which, in my book, is never as good). Think about what walls either of you may have constructed that may need to be broken down. Most importantly, talk to your boyfriend about it in a mutally loving, honest, and respectful way. Maybe he's noticed a problem, too, and the two of you can work together to make it better.

If you can't clear your head and think of your guy as USUALLY (not always) the MOST SEXY GUY, TO YOU ----
Get single, and let your partner find someone who can.

Needing to always think of others to feel hot means:
a-- the fire has passed and you haven't replaced it with mature love, if that potential is there.
or
b-- you aren't willing to get deep enough to see your commitment as more sexy than anything. Ryan (above) wrote a good reply that addresses this.

> Is it OK to think about other guys when you're with someone else?

Thinking of other guys while you're with someone, while the two of you are having dinner: no problem.

Thinking of other guys while you're with someone, while the two of you are having sex: there is evidently a problem.

Needing to think of other guys while you're with someone, while the two of you are having sex: there is a serious problem and it lies with you.

The problem is not your boyfriend nor how you feel about it. The problem is that your fondness for porn and fantasy has EXCEEDED the satisfaction you get from something in real life.

There are six billion of us: no surprise that your kind--or mine--exists. Is there at least one other person out there who is like you, or at least won't mind being in a relationship with someone like you? Definitely. Is your present boyfriend one of those rare types? As likely as you winning the lottery.

QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF: Do you feel lucky--when was the last time you won a million dollars? The answer to this question will be the same answer to the question of whether you should tell your boyfriend.