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GADS! Sounds like you've met some guys with baggage.
Let them go.

What are YOU looking for? Long term? Quick shag? Both?

Find out if the guy has been in a relationship, how recently it ended, and what he's looking for.

If you find yourself on the initiating end of every date, learn to put the ball in the other court: "I had fun. Give me a call IN THE NEXT COUPLE OF DAYS if you want to go out again." Then don't hold your breath, wait a couple of days. If you don't hear back, keep moving.

The rebound guy is a term used for the guy you date after a big break up... and either you have awful luck and are the quintessential rebound guy... or these guys are using your inexperince as an easy way to get away. If the relationships were goin as good a you say tho i see no reason for them to up and run. Keep at it and try to steer clear of the devistated hot guys at the bar and you will meet someone. The rebound guy deserves a reason to rebound too : )

You don't give your age --- the replies should be very different if you are 30 than if you are 20. (As I stop and re-read your question, I am kind of hoping you are 17 or less, sorry.)
I am sure others will take the bait and answer the question directly: I won't.
If I have a few dates with someone -- the "normal course of events after a breakup" is not only NONE of my business, but irrelevant. Either these particular guys kept dating you or they did not.
Maybe your job is to figure out what is up with YOU that you are so bothered by this and inquisitive, rather than trying more guys and letting those go. When you talk about them "committing to dating" after 2 dates, you sound d e s p e r a t e for a wedding ring. Did you carefully extract promises that if you like them, they are required to keep dating you? (lol)
What if they just wanted a fuck?
What if it might have turned to more, but you try to corral them too quickly?
What if, what if, what if? What if you took "no" for an answer, moved on, and let it go?
Chemistry does not make a dating relationship work -- personality and compatibility of lifestyle does.

After Breaking up with my ex, I took an inventory of myself. Although I want to be in a LTR, I needed to really look deep into my core to figure out what really makes me tick. When I approach Dating now I will not use a line like "I have to get my sh$# together" I have been working on that.
Chris-those guys are sending up red flags. Move on quickly, it is not about you, it is not because there is something wrong with you. My advice for you is to know yourself, be your self every day and do what you like to do, as well as try new things. In the course of all of this Mr. Right will come along. Spend time wisely with family and friends and create balance. For me when i have ended a relationship, it has taken a year or more to really take stock and prepare to date again. Good Luck!

Pardon me for being frank but it's just a nice way of saying, "You are not my type!" Gays are always ready for a relationship, even an hour after a break-up! It may not be an emotional relationship, but no gay says "No" to a sexual relationship to a person he is sexually attracted to!

Gays move on quickly than straights! Gays have less moral burden and take note that I don't mean less moral!

Maybe he's just not that into you...

Sexual Chemistry does not equal relationship chemistry. Especially in gay "dating".

Keep in the game, meet boys, meet men, have fun, (use protection every time) and you'll wake up next to Mr Right one morning.

Just play it cool until then. Desperation is not attractive.

Let's look at some things here. Chris never differentiated between sexual and relationship "chemistry", he just said chemistry. That could mean a myriad of things...including sexual.

The big picture here is what he may or may not have done after the dates. Was he too clingy? Too aloof?

We are only getting one side of the story here.

Chris, my advice to you, because I've seen it and been through it is to find that happy medium between clingy and aloofness. It may take some time to master and if you're younger than 25, you have that type of time. Hell, you have that type of time even if you're not younger than 25.

Some guys (doesn't matter on sexual orientation) are sensitive or become distant when you don't give them what they perceive they need (myself included). You don't give them space, they run. You give them too much space and they see it as being too distant.

Continue to date. Eventually, someone will come along who is right for you. And I agree with T, desperation is NOT attractive.

Not to be the grammar police, but I think the title should read "Why is his old breakup "affecting" me?

And Darling, you answered your own question in the posts? If a man tells you he's not ready to date, "believe him". True you've had your share of bad luck and goodness knows we aren't getting the full story, but move on. Enjoy dating and eventually they'll be someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with you.

He's just not that into you. You're young. Be happy that you are free to play the field for a while.

Spongey hit it!
Obviously, guys are dropping you because your English is poor -- lol! Or maybe they don't have to have one clear reason, just to satisfy your curiousity.
HINT: I have found that the guys who do not hang around are the guys who are easy to get in the first place, since they are always available, never taken.

The issue of what is it like when a gay guy in a LTR breaks up. . . Everyone handles breakups differently. One may be like "finally now I get to move on to something better. Or, one might be devastated and experience the breakup like the grieving process seen when someone you love dies. If the future you had planned self-destructs in front of your eyes, you may handle it in numerous ways. So, all you can do is be supportive of the person. . . moving on if that is what it requires.

There is nothing to "break off" after a couple of dates. You're not a lesbian.

You had a couple of rejections. You'll have many more. Move on. And don't take things so seriously.