Ask QC: Should I Break Her Heart, His Heart or Mine?
Dear Queerclick,
Several months ago, I fell down a flight of stairs and broke both of my arms. I needed to wear long arm casts, which left me temporarily disabled for a couple of months. When the doctor bound my arms, my life stopped. I could no longer do anything on my own. This is when my best friend stepped in and saved me from falling apart.
He took care of me everyday until I got the casts off. After realizing I had no other options and getting past the awkwardness, he began to shower me and took care of my daily living needs. I had met him and his girlfriend in college, and I’m very close with the both of them (I’m out to the both of them as gay). They are a straight couple that have been together for several months, and I had always wanted them to be happy together. Two weeks before I had my casts removed, he stepped into the shower with me (which he hadn’t done before) and tried to jerk me off. He panicked halfway through and left.
We talked about it a few days later. We both kind of saw it coming; there was a sexual tension between us ever since he and his girlfriend fooled around with me months before my accident (it was pretty tame). We decided not to tell his girlfriend about this shower incident. He said over the past few weeks he grew attached to me, but he didn’t know if he could give up what he had with his girlfriend. We ended things rather vague. He basically left it up to me to decide how our relationship will look like.
After what he has done for me, I want him to be a part of my life. Should I let what could be an amazing friendship whither away and spare myself from further pain? Or do I rekindle the friendship and swallow my feelings for him? What if something happens again? Somebody is going to get hurt.
Sincerely,
Broken
Falling in love with a straight guy is what most of us fear. And now our poor friend who wrote in is in love with a straight guy, who is already attached and who has fooled around with him twice.
This friend of his is obviously a great guy, seeing how he took care of him while his injured and physically handicapped. However, much has to say about the fact that he’s exploring the gay option when he’s already attached. So what would you do if you were in the author’s shoes? What would be your considerations? Let us all share our thoughts.
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