Ask QC: We Met Online But He Lied!

Hi there QC,

I’m sure most of us have met guys online and most of us have either lied (or been lied to) about our height/age/weight/dick size, etc, etc. Perhaps sometimes these are more of exaggerations of the truth say about what we do for a living, how much we earn, that sort of thing.

A few months ago I met a really nice guy online who, lives a few hours drive away, but with work and the holidays we just never seemed to be able to meet up face to face. We’ve been webcamming and jacking off together and getting along just fine – that is until we met up last week.

It bothers me that I feel so strongly about this as hes been a really nice guy, but now I realized hes always been making excuses or avoiding questions which I put down to him being shy, I now feel I have been led along and feel a bit foolish too.

When we finally did get to meet I drove over to his place but I was shocked when he answered the door… in a wheel chair! At first I thought perhaps he had been in an accident or twisted his ankle or something, but he hadn’t. He then told me that he could walk (partially) but he has cerebal palsy since being born and it affects his motor (brain) controls and his physical abilities.

It pained me to see him like this as I had over several months started to develop deep feelings for him, I felt like I’d been robbed. Which I know is very selfish of me too but I had been dreaming of notions that we could get into a serious relationship together, now Im not too sure.

I was angry and sad but now Im over the initial shock Ive been wondering how difficult it would be for us to have a relationship together? Right from the start he lied about his condition, but he’s explained this by saying that if he had told at the start me I wouldn’t have been interested in him (sadly, he’s probably right). Now that I have learned to like him for who he is and develop feelings for him its different, but can I ever trust him?

My question really is have other readers been in this situation and what difficulties will it bring being in a relationship with someone who has this condition? From a sexual point, there will be no problems (although we probably wont be swinging from the chandeliers LOL!). But I’m seriously considering giving this a chance to work and would really appreciate any advice from those who’ve been there before.

Thanks everyone,

Benjamin

Hi Benjamin and thanks for your writing in with your question, that’s certainly quite a complicated and interesting topic! So dear QC readers what advice would you give? Have any of you been in this situation before? Are any of you currently in relationships with a partner who is physically challenged? Was it always like that from the start or something that happened later in life? If you can help Benjamin in any way, or point him in the right direction then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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