Ask QC: How Do I Start Dating?

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Dear Ask QC,

I’m 22 and I’m kinda shy. I can talk to people but most of the times I can’t find anything to say so I prefer to stay quiet. I’ve never dated anyone and I don’t know how to meet new people. None of my friends know that I’m gay and I don’t think they need to know right know, I guess I’d like to tell them when I am dating someone. None of my friends are gay and that makes it difficult to find someone to date or at least a friend who could advice me about this. I don’t like too much going out, maybe because I’m looking for someone who loves me back and not a one night stand. Besides I prefer watching a movie instead of dancing and stuff like that, so people tend to think that I’m boring though I’m funny when I feel comfortable with the other person. All guys I was ever interested on were older than me (25-30) and though I’m 22 I look pretty boyish so I think they wouldn’t be interested on me. And the guys I like are all straight so I’ve got 0 chances of getting their attention. What can I do to start meeting new people?

Thanks,

Todd

Hi Todd. Thank you so much for your question and concerns. Dating is always tricky, and especially if you’re not quite out yet. First of all, it sounds like you need to be a little easier on yourself. Don’t assume that the guys you are into definitely aren’t going to be into you. There’s a guy out there for everyone! (Seriously though, aren’t all the worst people you know dating someone?!) What advice do you have for Todd, QCers? Any stories you want to share about when you were just starting to date?
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Jun 10, 2013 By will 3 Comments