Ask QC: What’s wrong with the sober guy?

Hello QC,

I’m a 24 year old newly sober guy (rehab, AA meetings, the whole shebang) and any individual I meet seems to be un-attracted to the fact that I choose not to drink alcohol or use drugs.

So, what’s wrong with the sober guy?

Thanks,

DL.

Hi DL and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. We don’t see anything wrong with sober guy’s and in fact it’s a positive quality to have if you have made these personal choices. We do realize it’s common that in the gay bar/club scene there is recreational use of drink and drugs, and as you know, that can lead to dependency. But just because there is a drink/drug scene that doesn’t mean everyone is into that, nor does everyone want a partner who is into that. We are sure there are plenty of sober guys who want to be with sober guys too! So dear QC readers why do you think DL is being turned down? Is it that his age group all want to party? Is he seen as too conservative because he is now sober? Where would be the best place for DL to find guys who like sober guys and what advice would you give? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice for all in the QComments section!
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