Ask QC: Too scared to have sex!

Hi there,

I’m afraid to have actual sex, what I mean is I JO a lot, webcam with guys and all but when it comes to meeting up I’m afraid of catching a sexual disease. Its like I got a phobia about it.

I’m 18 and I know a lot of guys hook up and have loads of sex, and the idea of sex is great but I cant get over the fear I may fuck up my life if I catch STD, Herpes or HIV

This week I was webcamming this guy who lives nearby, it was freaking awesome but then he wanted to meet up and I had to tell him that we couldnt kiss or touch even if we used condoms. Then he was like, well bye then! That really sucked 🙁

It’s like I got a phobia now about sexual contact, and I don’t know what to do about it or how to stop it. I still live at home and I can’t tell my parents about this, what should I do?

Thanks, Corey

Hi Corey and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. There’s nothing wrong with being cautious about choosing sexual partners, but if you feel that is becoming extreme we recommend you seek professional advice too. There should be gay youth groups and sexual advice groups in your area, Google for them and give them a call. You will then be able to speak to someone who can give you professional advice and help on how to overcome your fears. And of course, there is an abundance of help and advice from our own dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Corey? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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