QC Open Forum: Is Anal Sex In A Relationship Non-Negotiable?

Recently, a QC reader made a question, something along the lines of “are all gays having anal sex now?”. It could have been easy to dismiss it but the query really left us wondering on the subject and it kinda spawned other related questions. Sure, a common perception, even for straight people, is to equalize “gay sex” with “anal sex” and we forget the wide spectrum of turn-ons and turn-off in the human sexuality. And before you write this off as a sign of psychological repression consider that it’s not really ludicrous to find a gay man that is not interested at all in anal sex nor even giving or receiving. We have to remember that what is one’s reality does not necessarily apply to others, and there’s even people who fetichise chastity belts as a way of deprivation from any type of penetration. But what happens when something like this factors when two people who find each other attractive interact intimately? Is fucking really necessary in a gay relationship? Are all gay guys having anal sex now or not? Does every gay man really need to fuck or be fucked to be considered a real gay man?
We guess the bottom line is: Is anal sex in a relationship non-negotiable? We want to know your thoughts on this so don’t forget to comment!