Ask QC: Why Do I Shut Down When It Comes To Relationships?

Hi,

I read your QC question/advice section all the time (all the pics of cute guys too of course). So I need some advice with this… I’m 25 going on 26 and have never had a serious relationship… like ever. I have regular sex with guys but nothing that is remotely close to having a boyfriend, a couple of times it has come up but I get claustrophobic and trapped.

I like my space, but it’s getting a little lonely, and even though I kinda shut down when it comes to relationships I want one but I won’t ask and my fuck buddies are just that. So, I am sure I’m not the only one in this boat and I need to get over this feeling of being uncomfortable about letting guys in. So dear QC, any advice?

Love and relationships aren’t all fireworks and poetry. Quite often, they can leave a guy feeling smothered or burdened with all sorts of expectations that suddenly weigh him down. But it certainly doesn’t have to be that way and maybe all this stud needs to get started is a different outlook. It’s hard to know what’s going on with this guy without a more information, but maybe he’ll pop back up in the QComments section and elaborate. In the meanwhile, how can he open himself up to a real relationship after a long stint of hook-ups? What should he keep in mind to stay positive and self-aware instead of closing up and hurting his chances? Please share your advice and experiences in the QComments section.
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