Ask QC: My Partner Wants to Get into Swapping
Dear QC,
Recently over the Christmas period my partner and I attended quite a few parties, some of which were pretty wild (in so far us both getting drunk and wasted, etc).
During the course of one of those nights, our hosts (a close friendly couple around the same age as us) asked us a “what if” question, which basically amounted to a proposal that we had a night of sex where we swapped partners.
Not wanting to sound a prude, when my partner said sure we would I also agreed, but on condition it was set up on a night when we werent all partying and drunk.
To be honest, I thought it was all a bit of a prank and us all joking around but now (this week), my partner was contacted to “set up” the night in question so we can swap with each others partner.
Now that I’m sober, in the cold light of day I don’t really know what to make of it all. Theres a part of me that says no this is just wrong, but equally there is a part of me that is excited at the prospect too. We are all in our late 20’s and have been steady with our partners for a few years each now.
My question is, will this just be a bit of harmless fun to spice up our sex lives or will it change everything. We’ve discussed (but not gone forward with) having an open relationship, I don’t believe we have any sexual hang ups but I’m now just a little hesitant as to whether we are making a big mistake.
Or could this be the start of a wonderfully exciting sexual adventure?
If theres anyone who’s gotten into the swinging scene or has any advice about this it would be great to know.
Thanks!
Kirk
Hi Kirk and thanks for writing in with your question and concerns. Swapping or swinging does have a scene, and I’m sure like most scenes has its pros and cons! Any I’m sure we have some readers who have been into this, or are still actively involved in swinging. So, dear QC readers, if you have any tips and advice for Kirk and his partner please feel free to share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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