Ask QC: My new boyfriend is too scared to have sex!

Dear Ask QC,

I recently started dating my new boyfriend, we’re both 19 and get along great. He’s funny, caring and sexy. Oh god is he sexy!

But… when it comes to sex he is too scared to go too far cos he’s scared of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.

So fair enough, we both went together and got tested to get the all clear, but still he wont do anything more than kiss, even though we get down to our undies and have even cum together (more from the pent up sexual frustration than anything else I’m sure!)

So my question is, what can I do to get my boyfriend to relax and be more comfortable about this situation. I keep assuring him that he is not going to catch any disease from me (I’ve only had one boyfriend before and that was over a year ago) but he still feels he wont even touch my cock or blow me unless I wear a condom.

I’m okay about wearing a condom but surely in such a monogamous relationship his behavior is a bit extreme dont ya think?

If you got any ideas on how I can fix this please let me know cos Im going nuts over it (my nuts are going nuts too!)

Thanks

Dane

Hi Dean and thanks for writing in with your question and concerns. Being concerned about your own (and your partners) sexual safety is important and respectful to each other. But everyone has their own limits sexually, and as to how far they feel comfortable with going in terms of sexual activity. Is Dane’s boy friend being too extreme or is he just being cautious? So, dear QC readers, if you have any tips and advice for Dane and his boy friend so they resolve their dilemma then please feel free to share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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