Ask QC: He had a one night stand, should I leave him?

Dear Ask QC,

Recently after a few too many drinks one night, I jokingly asked my boyfriend of 12 years if he ever got the urge to sleep with different guys. To my horror he admitted that he had a one night stand a few years ago with a guy from the gym.

I felt like I had been kicked in the guts, part of me wishes I had never asked him, and part of me wishes he had not told me too.

I’m finding it difficult to accept what has happened, he’s apologized and all but I just cant get the image out of my mind that he slept with another guy. I feel devastated.

What’s the best way to get over this, should I leave him? I’m still angry, upset and brooding over it and it’s been weeks since his confession. Please help.

Tom

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