Ask QC: I love fapping more than sex itself

Hi Ask QC guys,

I’m 29 years old, love my porn, hot guys and all but I guess most of all I just like fapping.

And by that I actually mean I prefer to jerk off rather than have actual sex with a guy and I’m beginning to wonder if thats gonna be a bit of a problem?

I didn’t ‘come out’ until a few years ago (26) and then I kinda went a bit crazy and was jumping into bed left, right and center. And somehow it never lived up to its expectations, not sure why but finding the right guy to hook up with and meeting them was the exciting part. Actually getting down to it always seemed a bit of a let down so I generally just stopped dating guys now.

I still like to chat up online and fap away, but its more of a distance thing and I know how my technique in fapping gets me right to the edge (and beyond). I guess the reason I’m writing in now is that it dawned on me I’ll be 30 early next year and does this mean I’m gonna be like this forever? Am I now too set in my ways or will I be able to find the right man who I can please in bed and he can do the same for me too. I’m a bit adverse to being fucked although I indentify more as a bottom, tried fucking a few guys (which didnt really work) love to suck cock, be rimmed, love kissing and nipple play.

So am I confined to being alone and just fapping myself stupid and alone or are there guys out there who are ok with the type of sex which just involves kissing, cuddling, oral and wanking? Everyone I’ve met so far either expects to fuck me or wants to be fucked and I can’t be doing with the whole performance, its expectations and let downs.

Any advice, or just reassurances that I’m not the only guy out there like this would be really helpful – thanks guys.

Hugs,

Jeremy

Hi Jeremy and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Rest assured there are guys like you who like just what you want to do – you just havent met them yet! There is probably every type of gay relationship (including sexual preferences) out there so dont’ feel alone in thinking you are too different or weird just because you have particular needs or desires. And its not always the case that what you like now (in your 20’s) will be what you like in your 30’s or 40’s and beyond – life is a journey of different experiences so try not to limit your thinking that you are trapped or constricted by your sexual tastes that you have now. So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Jeremy? Is he limiting himself sexually? Did any of you experience this, now or in earlier years and was it an issue or not? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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