Ask QC: Am I addicted to just kissing?

Dear Ask QC,

I’m not sure if this is possible, but have I become addicted to kissing?

I’m 22 years old, an athletic and sporty kinda guy and generally go for older, masculine bearish type of men. But I only recently came out to friends and during college break over Christmas started going to the gay bars/clubs.

Apart from dating a few girls in school that I kiseed but really didn’t enjoy (at least it confirmed I’m gay) I had never kissed a guy until about a month ago. Yes, I’ve had some sex with other guys who I met on the apps, but it was just blow jobs and hand jobs and a few fucks but its not like I am super experienced. And the thing was these were just hook ups and I was always specific about not wanting to kiss – just sex and go.

So this is the thing thats gotten me a bit confused, I’m in a bar, being chatted up by a really nice guy, he offered me a drive home. He had work the next day so it was just going to be droping me off at home, no sex as he lives another 30 min drive from my place. Before I got out of his car he leaned over and kissed me and it was like “WOW!” Thats AMAZING! I’ve never felt a kiss like that before! And it lasted around 10 minutes but I didn’t want it to stop.

So of course he got a second date (and a third and fourth lol) – here’s the thing, I don’t really feel sexually attracted to him anymore, he’s ok but its his kissing that I can’t get enough of. I’ve also been dating a few other guys, and now I’m just really focused on kissing, and I mean for hours… LITERALLY HOURS! It’s to the point when I meet up some of my dates are saying after around 20-30 minutes STOP IT! But I really don’t want it to stop I just want to do that for hours, I’ve even kinda gone off the sex thing now as well 🙁

Over the Xmas vacation, there has been lots of opportunities to kiss guys, especially in the bars and clubs, seems like Christmas is a great excuse just to kiss anyone! LOL! I know, it’s kinda wrong too right? And of course, I’ve realized that some guys aren’t that good at kissing but I feel like I’m really improving my technique, a lot of guys said WOW when I kissed them (I like to french kiss and hold it for as long as possible).

Well, its back to college now, and I feel like I’m really missing all those kisses, and the weird thing is, like I say I’m kinda not so interested in the sex side of things too. Which I think might be a bit weird, have I become an addict to kissing? Is there even such a thing or is it possible? Btw, I’m top and always felt that kissing a guy was a bit sorta sissy, but I really do like to kiss men now for 2-3 hours (the longest was with one guy kissing for 6 hours, my lips were numb the next day LOL!) So now I think I really am an addict… any advice on this guys? 🙁

luv n hugs, Ethan

Hi Ethan and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Are you addicted to kissing? Well I guess it’s possible to be addicted to anything, but it’s not the end of the world. Discovering something new, thats arousing is bound to make you more curious and interested in it particularly when you have been surprised that you’ve found it so pleasurable? So dear QC readers what advice would you give Ethan? Have you been addicted to anything that is particularly sexually or physically enjoyable like this? Is that just enjoyment, lust or really an addiction? Is there a physiological reason why you would feel like this (Hormones, Pherenomes, etc)? If you can help Ethan and other readers then please share your tips, advice and pearls of wisdom with all in the QComments section!
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