Ask QC: Am I the world’s worst bottom?

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Dear QC,

I’m a total bottom, but probably the worlds worst! I’ve no interest or desire to top, I never have, I love cock and I love serving and pleasing my guy. The thing is I can’t even bottom/fuck which is a total joke (a bad one) at my age – I’m 21 yo already. My boyfriend is 25, an experienced top and he’s been great at being patient with me but I know that he really wants to fuck me – and I really want him to be able to do that with him too. I would say I’m a good kisser and good at hand jobs/blow jobs but I feel that my boyfriend is missing out because he can’t fuck my ass they way I know he wants too ๐Ÿ™

Since I was a teenager I’ve had this desire to be fucked but when it comes to the mechanics of it I just can’t get over the pain or being able to widen my hole enough – it hurt so much when I tried a few years back when I tried to finger myself that I just didnt try anymore. Now I’m beginning to wonder if I have some sort of medical or physical problem thats restricting me from being able to do that – I really can’t even get my pinky in ๐Ÿ™

Since I started dating my boyfriend then I thought some how it would just happen naturally and I would either get used to or be able to overcome the pain so that I could be fucked. But as that hasn’t happened, so a few months ago I bought a butt plug (the smallest I could find) and lubed up and even after lots of practice I can’t bear to get it in – if I do then I can’t keep it there for more than a few seconds without breaking into a cold sweat and wanting to pass out! I literally scream in agony!

And it’s kinda difficult to know how to go any further now, I still live at home with my parents and I can only try with my butt plug when they’re not there as they will hear me as there’s zero privacy in our home ๐Ÿ™ So guys, what I need to know, is how long should I keep it in, hours? days? Is this the only way I will stretch my hole? Cause at the moment I can’t even take it for a minute! So if thats the case then I doubt I will ever be able to take a cock in my ass, and thats would be really sad as its something I want to do to keep my boy friend happy.

Actually I’m worried that I will lose him eventualy over this, he’s not said anything and he’s being really patient but when we first met and I asked him why he broke off with his previous boyfriends he did mention sexual incompatabilty as one of the reasons ๐Ÿ™

I’m really envious of all the great bottoms on here and I want to be like a porn star power bottom ๐Ÿ™‚ So I’m hoping you guys might know of some other (better/less painful) ways that I can train to be the best bottom for my guy!

Thanks and hugs and kisses xoxo

Thadd

Hi Thadd and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Learning sexual techniques, especially bottoming is like anything else and takes practice, and your boyfriend will be aware of that. He’s knows it takes time and practice and so it’s great to hear that he is an understanding guy and being patient with you. That should alleviate any physhological concerns you may have. It may also be advizable to visit a medical professional too, it could be something as simple (and treatable) as hemorrhoids that’s causing the pain, so it’s worthwhile getting a physical to eliminate any medical conditions. While we can get a lot of tips and ideas from porn, let’s get real, these guys are pros, well practised and those shoots are filmed over several hours/days and then edited. It would be great of course if a porn model gave a few tips here, but back to the real world and our lovely QC fans! So dear QC readers what advice would you give Thadd? Please share your tips and experiences to help him and all in the QComments section!

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Mar 29, 2015 By Tim 3 Comments