Ask QC: I love to kiss and cuddle but all my dates only want sex

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Dear Ask QC,

I’m 22, fit and reasonably good looking and like to kiss and cuddle with guys a lot!

I date and meet up fairly regularly with other guys as my free time allows but I’m not ready to commit to a regular steady boyfriend while I’m still going to college and working two jobs part time as well.

And my favorite thing when I’m with a guy is to kiss passionately and cuddle but it seems almost everyone I meet just wants a fuck or a blow job and that’s it. Don’t get me wrong, I love sex too it’s just that I don’t want to dive into having a quickie and then it’s all over. And I also want some intimacy and closeness rather than a cock just thrust down my throat or up my ass straight away.

And it’s not like I don’t like sucking cock either, it just seems that every guy I meet recently will not kiss and I’m like WTF! It’s gotten to the point now that I have to ask guys up front do they like to kiss and I would say the response is that 9/10 of them say they don’t and I’m like this is weird shit, is there something wrong with my mouth, my teeth, my breath (there isn’t I assure you)

I take a lot of pride in my personal hygiene, especially dental hygiene so I know bad breath isn’t the issue. I am being told by guys online and on the Apps before I even meet them, absolutely no kissing, and I’m like but don’t you realize it’s the best thing ever? And why don’t you want to kiss?

So I guess my question is, why are there so many guys who only want sex and don’t want to kiss or cuddle? Yes I get the sex thing, thats amazing and I love it, but kissing passionately and cuddling is awesome too. If you have both then thats the best thing ever, I want to know what has happened, why don’t all these guys want to kiss? Is this a new trend not to kiss? (I hope not!)

Hugs

Sean xoxo

Hi Sean and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. I’m a big advocate for passionate kissing but respecting others personal physical boundaries is important too. We don’t all have the same preferences but hope you’re able to find more compatible guys. Lets also hope that guys not kissing hasn’t become a trend either as a quick straw poll around the QC office we can say that isn’t the case. And also judging on what happens in porn kissing is very much part of intimacy (OK we know porn isn’t reality, just saying there is still lots of kissing there). It seems it’s more likely that you have just had a run of meeting guys who aren’t into kissing. It’s true to say that some guys only want sex and cannot or do not want any close intimacy such as kissing or cuddling and hugging, but these are surely in the minority? So, dear QC readers what are your views and experiences on this? If you can help Sean answer his questions in anyway or would just like to share your thoughts and experiences please do so in the QComments section!

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Mar 09, 2015 By Tim Write a comment!