Ask QC: My nipples don’t work, can I train them?

Dear Ask QC,

I’m 18 and my bf is 26, we love porn and having as much sex as possible.

As he’s much older than me and more experienced I am learning a lot, one thing I love to do that drives him wild and makes him moan is to suck and bite his nipples. It’s also a big turn on for me when he starts moaning like that too.

I don’t know why but whenever he plays my nipples it doesn’t have the same effect on me – it feels ok but I don’t get that same sort of squirming and insane pleasure that he gets when I work his nipples. In fact I don’t really feel anything at all, my nipples just don’t work.

I find this kinda sad, and this is probably a stupid question will my nipples grow to become sensitive as I get older and then react the same way his does? Is there anyway I can train to make my nipples more sensitive? I’ve seen those clamps and electric things on S&M sites but I don’t want to be tortured, I just want to be able to enjoy the pleasure that men seem to get from having another guy sucking, nibbling and biting their nipples.

Is this possible or is it just a case that some guys have this sensitive area there and other guys don’t?

Thanks for your help!

Kade

Hi Kade and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. First off, there is no such thing as a stupid question here – life is a learning experience and without questions we wouldn’t grow. This is why we reach out to our community here at QC as collectively we all have a vast knowledge base covering all different aspects of life. The question of nipples and men has been raised a couple of times before here and here with comments from the community you may find helpful too. We all have our special erogenous zones but with some varying degrees of sensitivity to these areas. Exploring and discovering these with your partner can lead to lots of pleasure both in giving and receiving when stimulating these areas during sex. In males, generally the defined erogenous zones are the Mouth/Lips, Nape of the neck, Inner thigh, Scrotum, Frenulum/Perineum, Scrotal Raphe, Penis, Back of the neck, Pubic area, Prostate, Ears and the Nipples. Some guys will go wild in ecstasy during nipple play but for others their most sensitive erogenous zone may not be there. You could try different degrees of stimulation on your nipples to see if you feel anything such as him sucking an ice cube then sucking them or experimenting with clamps – both will stimulate the blood flow in the area which may help to increase sensitivity. Or you could get him to focus on any other area which is your particular most sensitive spot and that will drive you crazy. Remember, we aren’t all the same and we all like different things, for him you have discovered it’s his nipples so enjoy working those for him! So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Kade? Did you have insensitive nipples at his age and did they develop into becoming more (or less) sensitive with age? Have you ever trained your nipples into become more sensitive and if so, how did you do this? If you have any ideas on how to help him with this issue then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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