Ask QC: Why did I suddenly start to have wild fantasies?
Dear Ask QC,
Recently I started having these wild fantasies – like being raped or being taken and used by 3 or more men. I’ll be in the grocery store waiting in line and then it will just flash these images of the guys at the checkout forcing me into the back room or even taking me there right in the middle of the store, fucking me every which way and abusing and filling every hole. Or I’ll be in a meeting at work and then I suddenly start to think I’m force stripped and fucked over the desk by the rest of the guys there.
The weird thing is I’m a top, in my 30’s and in a stable, steady relationship with my partner of 4 years, we live together and have a good and regular sex life. I’ve never been particularly into kink, bondage or anything like that, although I’ve always enjoyed watching porn (I still do, but not the extreme stuff).
So I can’t think why this has started to happen – I don’t know if it’s stress at work or means something else in our relationship (is it too boring?) or does this happen to everyone? I’ve not mentioned this to my partner yet as I don’t want to worry him or put him off me sexually – but these thoughts of being a slutty bottom are getting more frequent (several times a day) and more and more intense and extreme.
If anyone can help me understand what’s going on here I’d sure appreciate it, thanks guys, losing my mind a bit over this…
Ted
Hi Ted and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns.. Our sex lives don’t necessarily stay exactly the same throughout our entire lives. Everyone is different and we have differing wants and needs at different times of our lives. Having vivid sexual dreams or fantasies during the day can occur to anyone at anytime really and may go as quickly as they have come. That said, you obviously feel concerned by this and you could talk with your primary medical carer to determine professional advice on this matter. But just as valid are our readers experiences on this matter too, so dear QC readers what advice would you offer Ted? Should he be concerned about his sexual fantasies or not? Have you been in this type of situation before and how did you resolve it? If you can help him in any way then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!
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