Ask QC: Anal Conundrum

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Anal Conundrum

So, I’m 21 years old, and I’ve been dating a 35-year old guy for the last year. I’ve had anal sex before, and I never really got turned on by it at the time, mostly because I was afraid an “accident” would occur, since I never douched… just washed up and hoped for the best. I was okay with big dicks (not too big, but you know… above average) and they never hurt me, so that wasn’t the problem either. So I let it go thinking “well, you got nervous and limp only because of not douching, but you’ll be turned on otherwise!”

Cut to present day, and I finally bought a douche, because I want to have sex with my boyfriend more often. It feels lovely to be clean and not have that tension of “OMG, will my tummy start gurgling in the middle?!” But I still don’t get turned on while he fucks me. I’m super turned on during foreplay, and even when he slides in. And I love the idea of him inside of me. But when he starts pounding me, in my head, I love it, but my dick thinks otherwise – it goes limp faster than you can say “stop going limp”. 😐 I get this squishy, uncomfortable feeling inside, and that’s what turns me off. I don’t know what to do about it. It gets very annoying because I want my boyfriend to feel like he’s pleasuring me too, and I *want* to feel the pleasure as well, but my mind just won’t cooperate, I guess. I have to start jerking off from scratch after he’s done fucking me, and that’s the biggest turn off, so the overall experience becomes quite frustrating.

Is there anything I can do about this? Can I train my mind to be turned on some other way during sex? Does it require practice? […] Continue Reading

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