Ask QC: How can I be a good (bad?) Master?
Hi there Ask QC guys,
I'm in my mid-40's and been around the block a few times sexually, or at least I thought so until recently. I was in a long term relationship until last year when after 14 years things just fell apart and we realized that we were no longer compatible (he was still into doing a lot of recreational drugs and partying as though we were still students, whereas the reality is that I hold down a senior management position and high pressure job)
Part of my release from the stresses of work has been having a great sex life, and after splittling from my ex, I was missing that from my life too. So I decided to try some hook up sites and apps, which really opened up a new door to me (the apps weren't around when I got into my LTR). I've really been enjoying the diversity out there, really I have, but I even surprised myself recently when this super hot younger guy (22) asked if he could be my sexual slave/servant/submissive.
Not having tried that before I thought I would give it a go and actually really got turned on by the fact here is this guy who will do anything I want sexually. He actually wants to be abused both verbally, physically and sexually to the point where I call him insulting names and degrade him. He says he wants to be dominated and humiliated, and its strange because although I have never had any feelings towards doing this to another guy before, its as though something has been "unlocked" in me sexually. I get a "high" from it and he does too. We have really long sessions (3-4 hours) and afterwards we both feel really good about things, he's a very sweet guy and I treat him with the utmost respect outside of the bedroom.
He now wants me to piss on him, spit in his face and beat him harder (we have just been doing mild spanking). I'm not sure how far this will go but I'm willing to try as I want to be a better (or badder depending on how you look at it) Master in these situations with him.
My questions is this, how can I improve in being a hot dominant Master/Daddy? I want to be able to surprise him and take things up to another level - I'm pretty new at this so even though I've checked out the sites on QCX and I think it would be really great to hear from other QC readers here who are experienced at this and can pass on their best tips - thanks guys, appreciate it much!
Hi Theo and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. There are so many different aspects and genres to gay sex aren't there? And sometimes, perhaps a new experience is all it takes to discover that you actually really enjoy that too! So, dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Theo? Are you into Master/Slave role play or do you just enjoy dominating your partner or being humiliated by him in the bedroom? What works in these situations and what doesn't? What would you suggest for Theo to bring things to the next level? If you can help in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice for all in the QComments section!
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