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Ask QC: Meeting up with guys

Dear QC,

I don’t know if this is the type of question to ask on here, but I need advice from other gay guys.

I live in a small town, where being gay isn’t exactly socially acceptable, so other gay guys are pretty much impossible to find. I’ve developed a rather bad habit of meeting up with guys lately. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it, or that I am forced to do it or whatever. I feel used and dirty afterward, but I like it so I keep going back for more.

It follows a pattern, I meet a guy, do whatever with him, it’s hit and quit it, then I feel pretty bad, then I meet up again. It just keeps going. It’s also gotten to the point where it’s been enough guys that I’m worried about VD’s.

What should I do? Should I just stop meeting up or will this go away?

Thanks for any advice,

A.

Hi A and thanks for letter with your questions and concerns. Writing in is a positive step to seeking advice, as here you can share in other readers experiences, mistakes, failures and their successes too. Sometimes it’s not that easy to date openly with other guys, especially if you’re living in a small town or rural area, where circumstances may be more difficult than in the city areas. So dear QC readers what advice would you give A? Have you ever been in similar situation to his? Where you regularly hooking up too? And how did things work out for you? If you can help A in any way, or have been in a similar situation before then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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