Ask QC: First Time Kiss, Long Distance Relationship and a Holiday Romance too, can it work out?

Dear QC,

Some weeks ago I met a guy through an App. He was on vacation in my country and he wanted me to take him on a tour. There was no flirting between us and I liked that since I wasn’t looking for anything in particular. Obviously I found the guy attractive but I wasn’t looking for more at that time.

I accepted to take him out and we met. The night was perfect, it was like two friends hanging out. He never tried to flirt with me (or at least I didn’t notice if he did), actually it was me that kinda flirted with him (just a little). Well as we both live in different countries and speak different languages we used English as a common langues, so when I tried to explain a word he didn’t know a few times I said things that could have sounded as flirting. I think he cottoned on to this as after a few minutes and when other people in our tour group weren’t listening he thanked me for what I said.

So the night went on and we were sitting very close talking, at one point when the other part of the tour group weren’t around and we were alone he asked if he could kiss me. I agreed and we kissed, for me it was really perfect. It was actually my first kiss and I really liked it. We kissed the rest of the night, holding hands and cuddling.

Everything was so perfect that we decided to go out the next day and so we met up again. There was already this sort of connection between the two of us. Like I said he is the first guy with whom I have done anything so of course I was nervous but he was very sweet. We had to wait until we were more alone again, but he blew kisses and said nice things to me in the meantime. He showed me pictures of his family and asked about my family too, after that, we looked for a place where we could be alone and we ended up kissing again. This was really good kissing and for a long time too.

We had a beautiful time together so we kept going out the rest of the week until he had to go back to his country. We didn’t have sex and I liked that actually. I was a bit worried he would want to rush things because of the short time we had together but he didn’t. He was just very romantic, lots of kissing, cuddling and holding hands.

Of course, we talked about the possibility of meeting again in the future and we both like the idea of that. But it’s expensive so maybe I could only go there once or twice a year to his country and take some time off to see him.

Since he left we have been texting a lot, he calls me “babe”, “love”, “my boy” but it’s confusing to know what we are in this situation. I liked him a lot and he said he really liked me but is that enough? About the distance we said we will work something out, but we know it’s not easy.

Should I ask him if we are a couple or what? In this short time together is that enough to become a relationship for something to grow? If we are an item, can a relationship work with thus distance? I’m worried he might meet somebody else and forget about me. He is very special to me and I feel we are made for each other. He is really very sweet with me and that’s all I’ve needed in my life. I am a bit lost by all of this, can you guys help with your advice on this?

Thanks guys,

Silas

Hi Silas and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. First times, holiday romances and long distance relationships all come with their challenges. The fact you have managed to combine all three at once is a feat in itself, but not an insurmountable one! We’re sure that our readers have experienced all of these too and are willing to share their experiences and advice with you too. We personally know of several long distance relationships that have been successful and are now long term relationships which proves anything is possible! So, dear QC readers how would you help Silas is this situation? If you can help in anyway then please share your thoughts, wisdom and advice in the QComments section!

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