Ask QC: I’m Bi-sexual and Confused

Dear QC

Hi, I’m 26, recently came out as a Bi-Sexual man, to my friends at least, my mother still doesn’t officially know although I suspect she does. I consider myself bisexual because I would have sex with a woman as fast as I would with a man, but I’ve never found sex with a woman satisfying, so I lean towards men when the opportunity strikes me. I just recently became sexually active living a sheltered life with my brother dying before my birth and now in 2011 I have also lost my father. So I never moved from my home while I was in college and my mother and me lost our family home when my father died and now we both own our new one, so I cannot move out. I feel really trapped as I’m not able to go to bars – all of my many hot spots of my sexual adventures have been with what I thought was my “straight” friends who are now leading me down a different path.

Ever since I came out to my friend J (as I’ll call him) he’s been very flirty and we’ve messed around – even did my first three-some with him with a mutual girl-friend. He always seems to start it and even allows me to practically jerk him off but refuses to get too intimate. This past New Year he and another “Straight’ friend and I got a little heated with a three-way kiss, a lot of groping and ended with J going home to his g/f and me and “T” doing something that I regret. Usually when we get drunk we all like to play wrestle and this proceeded as normal and when J left I gave T a massage and he was telling me stories about his gay friend blowing him and how nothing ever came up that he was purely straight, even though all night long my hand was on his cock, so I took the story kinda as a challenge and that night I ended up blowing him. I passed his challenge cause he was hard but he passed out from the booze, and now I feel like some sort of gay creeper.

All of my sexual experiences haven been pretty fucked up in my opinion cause I feel like I’m being led on by my “straight” friends to feel out their curiosities, and I guess I’m starting to resent it. J wants to start another 3some with his g/f and possibly with T this time so a 4some with three guys which is confusing the hell out of me.

Finally J wanted to introduce me to his gay friend who is apparently very interested in me, but when I joked about screwing him he kinda got out of shape that he didn’t want to see me and his friend to have sex? So I am very confused, I’ve known these guys for about 7 years so I don’t want to fuck up a friendship but I don’t want to feel like the fall back gay guy.

Sorry for the wall of text!

Timothy

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