Dear QC,
About two years ago, I weighed about 80lbs heavier than I do today. I was a complete mess and I had no sense of personal style whatsoever. Today I look amazing and I love myself more and more each day that passes.
However before two years ago, there was this guy that I really liked. I told him that I liked him and he responded, “We’ll get to know each other.” After that a couple days passed, he seemed really distant and didn’t want a thing to do with me. So I wrote him off and went on with my life.
Time went on and my birthday came up he surprised me by coming without my knowledge. After that things were at a stand still, I tried making other moves and he never reciprocated any kind of feelings for me. I again, wrote him off as a “never-to”be.”
A year goes by, he moves to San Francisco for college and he gets a boyfriend (or probably already had one.) I on the other hand am going through a really rough time, I’m about to lose my house, my father lost his job, I couldn’t get a job, my “friends” were dropping like flies. I was pretty much by myself and on the edge. I reach out to him one last time, because lets face it, I’m not at all over him and I needed to talk to someone. He tells me he’s in LA and I ask him out for coffee, he agrees and I ask him when is a good time for him (keep in mind I DID NOT know about his boyfriend.) He stops responding and
on the day of coffee I don’t even bother getting out of bed. I write him off, once again.
NOW, by the time summer hit, I lost the 85lbs, I revamped my entire wardrobe, I got a Pink/Grace Jones-esque style hair cut. I basically went all out. I changed for the better and I did it for me. Although a part of it was so I could show him, “THIS is what you missed out on, THIS is what you decided to play a game with.”
In the beginning of 2012 I get a job, two actually. I’m on Cloud 9 and I’m really enjoying this ride. So I try, once again to message him. I say, “Hey, how are you?” We basically talked like nothing happened between us, and he informs me that he moved back from SF to LA because he “got tired” of SF. (I’ve lived in SF for 2 years, one does not simply ‘get tired’ of SF.) In the month of May my friend had her 21st birthday party and we all got a little crazy, he was there and we, of course, were both drunk. We were just talking, nothing happened. I looked good, he didn’t (he lost a lot of weight and I didn’t find him at all physically attractive.) I went home knowing this and I could honestly say to myself that I was finally over him. I requested him as a friend on FaceBook and he accepts.
SOOO, now, a week ago he messaged me asking if I still had his number, I told him I didn’t. He gave me his and asked me to text him. We talked of a bit, I asked him what it was that was so urgent for me to text him. He states to me, “He just wanted it so we could stay in contact, and he lost my number.” Just a few days ago I was working at my second job and he texts AND calls me at 12:00am asking where I’m at. I respond at work and he says that he was wondering if I wanted to hang out with him.
I don’t know what to do, should I go about playing a game with him like how he did with me? Take him up on his moves of trying to hang out with me, just to see where this could go? The power is in my hands and I don’t know what to do with it. Please help?
Lux
