Ask QC: Black and White
This week’s Ask QC touches on race, a topic our readers debated at length this past week. The letter, below, proves that race isn’t just an issue in the fantasy porn world.
Dear QC,
I’m a 40-year-old black man (average) who’s long been attracted to white and Latino guys. And why not? They’re practically everywhere (insert laugh track)! The problem is, of course, that is often not the case the other way around, friends or otherwise. I’ve gone on several sites like Manhunt and craigslist…even some romantic dating sites…and I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen countless profiles of men (that I’m attracted to) looking for all kinds of races except blacks. And in some cases where they don’t mention race, if I were to send them a picture of myself when requested…that’s the dealbreaker.
It’s difficult enough to be black and gay within the straight community, but to be excluded within the gay community is a bit much and tiring. I’m on the verge of stop trying and just live my life.
Sincerely,
Black and Tired
I’m a 40-year-old black man (average) who’s long been attracted to white and Latino guys. And why not? They’re practically everywhere (insert laugh track)! The problem is, of course, that is often not the case the other way around, friends or otherwise. I’ve gone on several sites like Manhunt and craigslist…even some romantic dating sites…and I can’t tell you how often I’ve seen countless profiles of men (that I’m attracted to) looking for all kinds of races except blacks. And in some cases where they don’t mention race, if I were to send them a picture of myself when requested…that’s the dealbreaker.
It’s difficult enough to be black and gay within the straight community, but to be excluded within the gay community is a bit much and tiring. I’m on the verge of stop trying and just live my life.
Sincerely,
Black and Tired
What advice would you give Black and Tired, dear QC reader? Please feel free to share your own experiences and advice to help him in the comments section.
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May 20, 2008
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