QC DIY: The ABC's of BDSM
BDSM is a complex acronym derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), sadism and masochism (S&M). For the uninitiated, it may seem like the dark branch of the sexual world, bringing to mind scenes from Straight Hell and Bound Gods. But in actuality, BDSM covers a range of activities not always sexual in nature. They can employ different degrees of kink from role play, blindfolding and spanking to bondage, sling-sex, fetishism, and punishment.
Far from being a fringe activity, the BDSM lexicon has terms for all sorts of sexual behaviors incorporated daily into mainstream culture. Below is a list of some terms and acts you may have heard of. The glossary may come in handy next time you want to be flogged by a martinet or participate in a little merinthophilia.
ACOMOCLITIC - a preference for totally shaved genitals.
ACUCULLOPHILIA - sexual attraction to circumcised men.
ADULT BABIES - age play where the submissive is the baby.
ALGOPHILIA - sexual arousal derived from experiencing pain.
ALTOCALCIPHILIA - high-heel shoe fetish.
BDSM - acronym for bondage, domination/ submission/sadism & masochism.
BALL GAG - a device with a rubber ball and straps used to stifle screams.
BALL STRETCHING - stretching the scrotum using weights so that it hangs lower.
BASTINADO - foot torture using the soles of the feet.
CAT O' NINE TAILS - a whip containing nine strands.
CHASTITY BELT - a device used to keep the submissive chaste when the dominant is away.
COCA-COLA SUBMISSIVE - a submissive who only obeys easy commands, or when he/she feels like it.
The alphabetized fun continues, after the jump!
DM - dungeon monitor: oversees a BDSM party to make sure house rules are followed.
D/S - popular abbreviation for a dominant/ submissive relationship.
DADDY - a role taken on in age play.
DOG TRAINING - role-playing that involves treating the bottom like a dog.
DOMME - a female dominatrix.
DUNGEON - a theatrical term for a bondage playroom.
EDGEPLAY - a practitioner of the more extreme BDSM elements, including fisting, asphyxia, knife play, etc.
EDGING - delberately keeping a submissive on the verge of orgasm without immediate release.
EMASCULATION - when a dominant restricts certain actions typical of male behavior.
EXTREME RESTRAINTS - a very confining or restrictive bondage device.
FELCHING - drinking semen out of another's orifice.
FEMDOM - a female dominant.
FLAGELLATION - a BDSM-related whipping to induce sexual arousal.
FLOGGER - a multi-tailed leather whip.
HANKY CODE - old-guard leather community's color code of sexual preference.
HOBBLE SKIRT - a narrow skirt that restricts the wearer's ability to walk.
IMMOBILIZATION - extreme form a bondage that totally restricts movement.
INFANTILISM - role-playing as a young child.
M/S - master/slave.
MALACCA - a thick cane.
MANACLE - metal restraints.
MARTINET - small flogger.
MASOCHIST - one who derives pleasure from pain.
MERINTHOPHILIA - sexual arousal from bondage.
MUMMIFICATION - a unique kind of bondage in which the entire body is wrapped tightly in film (plastic wrap).
OTK - over-the-knee spanking.
PADDLE - a flat instrument used for spanking.
PAIN SLUT - popular expression for a submissive who loves pain.
PANSEXUALITY - BDSM activities encompassing all sexualities.
PONY PLAY - role-playing where the submissive takes on the role of a pony.
POWER EXCHANGE - dynamic whereby the dominant is consensually given power over the submissive, whether for just the scene or for a relationship.
QUIRT - a type of buggy whip.
RPG - role-playing games.
RACK - bondage device modeled after a torture device used in the Inquisition.
S&M - sadism and masochism. One enjoys administering pain, the other enjoys receiving it.
SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL (SSC) - a slogan in the BDSM community.
SAFE WORD - a word or phrase a submissive uses to stop the scene.
TPE - Total Power Exchange - a term used for 24/7 master/slave relationships.
WATTENBURG WHEEL - a medical pinwheel commonly used in BDSM play.
WHIPPING POST - a post that submissives are chained to in order to receive their lashings.
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BDSM isn't an acronym...it's an initialism. An acronym is a word that is formed by the first letters of others, such as SCUBA, NASA, NATO, etc. Just letting you guys know, I like to think that us gays need to be the best at grammar and such.
Pulled straight off of dictionary.com:
Initialism
1. a name or term formed from the initial letters of a group of words and pronounced as a separate word, as NATO for North Atlantic Treaty Organization; an acronym.