Ask QC: How do you know when you love someone?

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Dear Ask QC,

This might be the most generic question you can get but I really do hope you guys can help me on this.

I have been with my bf for 1.5 years. He was my first boyfriend and my first ever relationship. It was the most amazing 1.5 years of my life. I really enjoy spending time with him and I care about him a lot. I thought I loved him. I thought I loved him so much.

But even when we are having such an amazing time with our relationship, I can’t shake my own promiscuosity off. Before I met him I used to be very promiscuous and he was the one difference that I’ve ever found. When I was with him I never physically cheated on him but I have chatted with random guys and sexted.

He found out yesterday and threw me out straight away. We’ve had fights before because of trust issues. Because he was insecure and jealous, but at the same time knowing all this, I still gave into temptation and sexted with people. My own personal point of view is that sex is different from love as sex is just a physical activity. In my head if you love someone it is still ok to have sex with other people, the exact definition of an open relationship. But my bf has a different point of view.

I really do still feel that I love him. So much so that it hurts to think that we’re over. I want to try and get him back but I don’t know if he deserves someone like me who can’t even love properly.

Which is why I want to ask, is there something wrong with me for thinking that I can love and be with someone while at the same time have sex with other people? And I really do want to try and get him back but I don’t know if he deserves someone like me, so what should I do?

Sincerely,

John

Hi John and thanks for your questions and concerns. It’s usual in relationships whether open, monogamous, polygamous or otherwise, to clearly define the boundaries within that partnership. It’s clear that you have been able to identify the concerns which led to the break up, i.e. trust issues and behavioral promiscuity. So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give John? Have you been in a similar situation yourself, and if so, how did you resolve it? In your experience, do open relationships work or do they always lead to break ups? If you can help John in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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02 Dec 13 By Tim 9 Comments

All Australian Boys: Craig

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Craig is a bulky Rugby player and is also into MMA mixed martial arts. He is a Biker, loving his Harley Davidson. He lives just outside Adelaide – in south Australia,. Craig works in the construction industry as a rigger On this shoot the guys got him to the glory hole to get sucked and later – a real surprise, to the couch for 1 on 1 action where their expert cock sucker Bob, went to work on him. Craig grabbed the sucker’s head and pushed it down hard on his cock.

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 11 Comments

GWiP’s Top Ten Of The Week

GWiP's Top Ten Of The Week
There was a lot of things to be thankful for this week and GuysWithiPhones was one of them! All those hot guys willing to share their nakedness is definitely something to be thankful for any time of the year! Meaty butts, hefty cocks, big guys, slim guys and everything in between. Come with us and pick your favourite/s, don’t forget to tell us in the comments which one do you want to stuff your turkey!
More after the jump!

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01 Dec 13 By G. 19 Comments

Porn Break: What Do You Want To Test?

It’s World AIDS Awareness Day—and along with mentioning it’s a great day to go find out your status or educate yourself about the virus and what is does mean if you do test positive—it’s also a good time to see what others are doing to promote healthy education. In scouring the Web for a good video to remind our negative friends to go get tested, we came across this video from Sweden. While we’re not sure if the message is very hard-hitting… these frosting-rubbing naked wrestlers did catch out attention… and we’re not complaining. The point of all of this is simple: An HIV test is easy to do. If you do test positive, you can still very much have a good life. And of course, if you are negative, play safe and test yourself often to know you status. Not knowing is actually far more dangerous.
Now back to those wrestlers…

01 Dec 13 By redmonkey 7 Comments

Raging Stallion: Jesse Santana and Mitchell Rock

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Jesse Santana is splayed out on the prison bed and wrapped in red plastic. His ass is raised and immobilized. There’s a man standing nearby, also encased in plastic. His cock is erect due to the intense need to fuck the ass before him. The standing man claws away the plastic. It’s Mitchell Rock, a stud of behemoth musculature and bright tattoos. He crosses to the ass that’s beckoning. Shredding the plastic, he grabs a cheek in each hand and begins to feed.

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 9 Comments

Czech Hunter: 117

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“I don`t like banks at all. When I was young I was permanently broke. And even when I started to work in a normal job they still didn`t even consider issuing me a credit card nor lending me some money. This must have happened to two friends who I met the day before yesterday. They told me that they need money cause they want to move to Prague. But even when you can share the rent the money for the deposit is already a lot for a young guy nowadays. As I almost immediately fell in love with one of those guys I offered my “selfless help”. Both have been quite shy in that moment. Maybe they didn`t trust me. But when I payed them 2.000 for a kiss they realized their chance …”

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 23 Comments

QueerClick’s 12 DAYS OF XXX-MAS

QueerClick's 12 DAYS OF XXX-MAS
Goodbye November, Hellooooo December!
December is our favourite month of the year cos it means we can cosy up around our fireplace with endless cuppas of hot chocolate, get to see snow, spend time reflecting on the year that’s almost gone by, get our unicorn hooves in a bind voting for QC Man Of The Year and our favourite activity of all… PRESENTS EXCHANGE!
This year, we’ve decided to kick off our favourite month by putting together an advent calendar to count and celebrate the days in anticipation of Christmas. We’ve even built a cute little microsite specially for this event (thank you, Jo, for the brilliant work and for burning candles to push this out in time). Read on, cos there are many pressies to be given away!

QueerClick's 12 DAYS OF XXX-MAS

Here’s what will happen:
1. On each day at 12 DAYS OF XXX-MAS, we will reveal a different Website Of The Day.
2. There will be an unique Promo Code each day.
3. The FIRST lucky person who enters the Promo Code when checking out will get a 30 Day Membership to the Website Of The Day at $0! If you’re fast enough, you’ll pick up the membership for free!
4. If you acted too slow and the free membership has already been awarded (if you see a message saying that the promo code is no longer valid, that means the prize has already been claimed), don’t panic! We have also negotiated 50% OFF the regular membership price for 100 other QueerClick readers. Simply enter promo code queerclickgift to take advantage of this strictly limited time 50% OFF promotion when you check out.

So in short, there are 12 different memberships to be won between 1 – 12 December. And 50% membership discounts for 100 purchasers everyday.
Make sure you bookmark the Microsite and check back every single day. We’ve even added a countdown counter to let you know when the next deal will be available.
We have more giveaways throughout the rest of December. This is just the first. Check back often, and we look forward to spending December with you in a jolly good manner.
XOXO,
Editor D

01 Dec 13 By Editor D 5 Comments

Cocksure Men: Derek Parker Barebacks Dayton O’Connor

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Derek Parker and Dayton O’Connor come out of the showers in nothing but towels. Dayton kisses Derek’s scruffy chest and the towels drop to the floor revealing their massive boners. Dayton strokes Derek’s cock and blows him. They make out and Derek goes down on Dayton, deep throating his pulsating cock. Dayton wants Derek to breed his raw hole. Derek slides his bareback cock into Dayton’s tight ass. He pounds Dayton aggressively at first and then pulls his cock all the way out and shoves it back in. Dayton cleans Derek’s cock by blowing him and deep throating it.

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 15 Comments

Naked Sword: Connor Maguire and Tyler Alexander

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In the climax of NakedSword Original’s dapper Dream Team, Connor Maguire and Tyler Alexander prove that what you wear on your body isn’t nearly as important as what’s covering your head. Like foreskin. Luckily, neither Connor nor Tyler are fully intact! And after the boys finish their editorial fashion shoots (Tyler looking chic in steampunk, Connor pressed in plaid) , they move on to something a little more primal. Like sucking and fucking. First, Tyler and Connor dock each other with their abundant foreskin, than trade passionate and chewy blow jobs.

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 6 Comments

Spunkworthy: Dakota and Preston

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This pairing has a little something for everyone. If you like your guys big and hairy, Preston is your man. If you prefer them lean and clean-cut, Dakota will do the trick. Either way, if you want to see real life buddies experimenting, then get ready for one of SW’s favorite scenes yet as these two studs get naked, lube up their cocks, and take their friendship to a whole new level.

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01 Dec 13 By Dave 5 Comments

Tied-up Rugby Player at BreederFuckers on QCX

Tied-up Rugby Player at BreederFuckers on QCX
Rugby tough guy Daniel falls into the BreederFuckers lair. The proud straight boy is used to being lusted after on the pitch and banter with his equally straight team mates in the dressing room after the match. What a self-satisfied cunt! You’ll agree that it is high time muscle-boy breeders like this were given the royal shafting they deserve with a good hiding to boot. Poor Daniel is on the receiving end of our vengence today.
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30 Nov 13 By Laam 1 Comment