QCX’s Fetish 101: The ABCs of BDSM

If you came over here from QC Main, you may be thinking, “You said that BDSM was fun! And now Adam Killian’s beating the shit out of Marco Blaze! What gives?!?!” OK, fair enough, but hear us out.
Adam Killian and Marco Blaze are participating in fantasized role play for photographer Justin Monroe and we chose the photos both because they’re hot and get to the heart of the BDSM power dynamic.
Vanilla sex is great, but it often puts a “nice, normal” face on an emotionally complex power dynamic between two or more people. A top and bottom definitely express power and desire in a sticky web of overt and subtle expressions, from the clothes they wear, the expression on their faces, and the words and positions they use. These power relationships exist is real life (employer/employee, student/teacher, elder/younger); BDSM merely puts them out in the open and explores their deeper meaning.
Porn star Tony Buff recently posted Top 10 Reasons to Play at a Leather Bar and our favorite reason says “Public Humiliation is a valid fetish: Don’t be ashamed that you like being ashamed.” Being curious about BDSM doesn’t mean you’re an abuse junkie or a plainclothes freak—even Psychology Today agrees!
So you’re curious, so you like rough sex, so you’ve always wanted to put on some leather, add some spice to your sex life, or wanted to be a big butch top or a total sub bottom without feeling all weird about it… GREAT! GO FOR IT! You’ll probably end up much more in tune with what actually turns you on and the emotions behind your desire.
But before you jump right in, you might wanna check Wikipedia’s entry on BDSM and read an A-Z glossary on common BDSM terms. You should also familiarize yourself with two other BDSM acronyms: all your play should be SSC (“safe, sane and consensual”) and you should participate in RACK (“Risk Aware Consensual Kink”), namely well-informed experimentation with an experienced or trustworthy partner willing to discuss limits and safety words beforehand.
Now that we’ve give you permission, we’re hoping you’ll turn around, tie us up, and make us beg for forgiveness, sirs! YOW!