Ask QC: He Kisses Like A Dead Fish
Dear QC,
I'm dating this boy who is absolutely gorgeous in every way except he just cant kiss!
To say he makes no effort in kissing would be an understatement, he just sort of sticks his tongue out and then doesn't even move it! Any tips or ideas on how I get him to improve? It would be so great if we could kiss for hours and hours. Sexually he's really great in bed but kissing with him is like trying to resuscitate a dead fish!
Help!
RB.
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While you're kissing, you might want to play coy and sorta just tell him how you like to be kissed. I find that if I kiss a guy a certain way (with tongue, for example), they will usually mimic what I'm doing.
good luck,
M
I feel you RB. Though my bf kisses well, he just doesn't do it as often as I would like and I LOVE to kiss. He even says he loves to, but never puts to practice you could say; least in my opinion. The thing is I just eventually learned to take what I can get, when I can get it. Though your situation is different, the best I could offer is practice practice practice. He may be a dead fish but with effort and patience I'm sure he'll improve. This is kissing not rocket science...
Having dated at least a couple of men with all the right equipment, and, shall we say, no license to use it, I'd say GO. It probably won't get better. However, honestly stating that you like your kisses a particular way and asking if he could try it for you might get the job done if you want to keep him. Just don't say "You suck at kissing," cause nobody wants to hear that.
You may have to put your own mouth to use by talking to him about it. Odds are, he doesn't realize he is a lousy kisser, and if you don't say anything then he has no reason to change. You have already noticed that varying your own technique doesn't cause him to do the same. So give him a few minutes of honest conversation, it will accomplish more than nights of just wishing he would learn to read your mind.
If everything else is great, give it some time. Let him pick up great kissing techniques from you.
Try different necking postures: lay him down and go to work on his face. Ask him if there's anything he would like YOU to do. If he remarks that you're great, let your skills sink in. If you see someone in a movie kissing the way you'd like to be kissed, suggest a reenactment. If he asks if there's anything YOU want, suggest some kissing games.
Unfortunately I have found that kissing is something that someone can either have a passion for or just is not good at it...sorry
Women make this mistake all the time. Its futile to try and change your man.
Well, you can't have it all.
Be grateful for what you've got and stop moaning
I have learned that if you give your partner a ice cream called the BIG STICK and you both use only your tougnes to suck it you maybe able to teach him a new kissing way.
i agree with a few of the comments above---good kissers are born with it and have a passion for it. while you may be able to teach them how to kiss, you can't teach them the passion part. my last two boyfriends sucked at kissing and they didn't like it---never again---ALSO, you can usually tell before you've even kissed someone who sucks at it--just ask them if they like to kiss--if they say no or give some excuse--they suck at it.