Ask QC: Am I Going Straight?

Dear QC,

Here’s a weird problem for you (and a nightmare for me!).

I’ve been gay for as long as I can remember, thinking of guys before my teens and coming out with a bang at 13. Being gay is such a big part my of life that the feelings I’ve recently developed are actually quite shocking to me. I’ve never been remotely interested in girls sexually, yes I’ve always had girls as friends but never have I wanted anything to do with a vajayjay and certainly not put my dick or mouth near that or a tittie!

So I’m sure you will understand my trauma in that I actually think I’m turning straight – sexually that is. I’ve always worshipped cock, love my porn and sure I’ve always enjoyed some straight porn (but of course only to look at the guy). I’m not turned off by women, and I know a good figure on a girl when I see one and get along with them fine. But what’s distressing me is that for the last few weeks I’ve actually been having sexual dreams, hetero ones at that! And at work I’ve been fantasizing about having sex with the women I work with there too, not that I’ve mentioned this to them, at least not yet, goodness knows what their reaction would be.

I wondered if any one else has experienced this at my age, I’m now 34, is this a “phase”, will it just last for a few weeks or months? I’ve really never considered myself Bi and find this weird that I’m getting all these very powerful sexual fantasies now. And just to make things even more complicated, I’m in a long term gay relationship, sharing my home with my partner of 8 years, our sex life is healthy so I don’t know what on earth to tell him or do about this, its driving me nuts!

Any ideas boys?

Paul.

Anyone had this situation before? What advice would you give Paul, dear QC readers? Please feel free to share your own experiences and advice to help him in the comments section.
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