Ask QC: My Gay BFF is in love with me… Help!

I met him almost a year ago when we were 20 years old (we’re now 21) and since day one we clicked so well and have really been inseparable ever since. Going out every weekend and even hanging out during the week, watching tv, gossiping, and just doing normal best friend stuff.

Shortly into the friendship he confessed to me, after a night out at the bars, that he was in love with me. The next morning I told him I love him as a person but just not in THAT way. The few weeks after that were fine, but little by little he started getting pissed off at me whenever I would mention I thought a guy was hot, or when I would stare and check some guy out. I can’t even say “Hi” to guy friends at the bar because he will flip the switch and not speak to me the rest of the night… after he’s had a few drinks in him he tries to hold my hand and gets mad when I don’t!

I don’t know what I should do, I love our friendship and don’t want to lose such a great friend. But at the same time, I feel like every minute we spend together, I’m hurting him.

Please help!

D.

When your gay BFF falls in love with you what do you do? How can we help D? If any of you have been in a similar situation and care to share then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section. Thanks!
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