Queerying: Jake Jewis, on Dating Scott Hunter
Today’s episode of Queerying is leaps and bounds the most adorable one we’ve ever done.
Last week, we reported on another couple in the world of porn and were thrilled to have Jake Lewis comment. For those of us living under a rock, Jake Lewis and Scott Hunter are partners, and have been for almost eleven years! In the intervening week, Jake was kind enough to provide us with an interview, offering his own insight into what it’s like to be partnered to one of our 2012 Man of the Year nominees. We’ll try to put aside our seething jealousy for the moment. 😉
You’ve always wondered what it would be like to date a porn actor, and we’ve got the goods for you, though Jake warns, “It’s not showbiz; far from it.” He may not think of himself as a porn actor, but we’re gonna go ahead and suggest considering it. Jake is scorchingly hot, incredibly sweet, and someone we’d absolutely love to see more of in the future.
QueerClick Congratulations on the 10.5 year mark! That’s really respectable. How did you guys meet?
Jake Lewis Thanks, Will. It’s edging ever closer to that 11 year mark. We actually met on Gaydar and used to chat here and there on it, but Scott had a boyfriend at the time so I didn’t pursue him and then we lost touch for a little while until I stumbled upon him again some months later. We got chatting again and arranged for me to make the visit to Manchester to meet. At that point in my life I was only ever interested in brief hook-ups, so was not expecting anything apart from having a dirty weekend and then home. Instead, I met a man right from the start that I knew I wanted to spend time with and I wasn’t bothered that I wasn’t going to get sex, we just had a great time talking about random stuff but the chemistry between us was there right from the start. Corny, I know but I knew from then that Scott would be a major part of my life. So guys, internet dating can work, we’re testament to it.
QueerClick That’s awesome! My woefully under-trafficked OkStupid — err, Cupid — profile will be glad to hear it. From my interview with Scott, I was lead to believe that you two met before you became porn actors. Is that correct? How did the decision to start doing porn scenes affect your relationship?
Jake Lewis Yeah Will, we’d already got 9 years in the bag before Scott ventured into porn, you guys know the ins and outs and the why’s and the what fors, so I won’t bore you. It did have an impact at first, yes, jealousy and envy being one thing, I’d always wanted to do porn but never did anything about it. But the main reason was the thought of someone else having sex with my man and me not being there. At times it tore me apart and there were a few tears shed here and there; My moods were terrible. I wouldn’t talk to Scott (I couldn’t find it in me to) and I preferred the silent treatment rather than discuss it like 2 sensible adults but you can only do that for so long and I could see how upset it was making Scott.
He explained to me the whole process of how porn shoots work and said I should do one and find out for myself, which I did. We traveled down to London where I performed a solo scene for Hard Brit Lads and the next day we performed our first and only scene together for HBL too, where I found just what hard (excuse the pun) work has to go into making a 20 minute scene. From that point, my mind-set changed about just how unglamorous porn is. Now, when he says he’s got to go to work, he really does have to work.
QueerClick Is it difficult (for either of you) to date a porn actor? Does one of you ever get jealous that the other is having sex with some really hot guys?
Jake Lewis I don’t consider myself to be a porn actor. I shot a few films and decided to concentrate on my career in fitness and Scott doesn’t see me like that either. When Scott goes to works he goes to work. Yes, he’s going to be fucked by some hot guy but really, when you’re on set for hours on all fours — or whatever the case may be — the hotness soon disappears right out of it and it just becomes like any other job. Scott does put a hell of a lot of prep work and pride into what he does, I hasten to say.
As for jealousy, no I’m not jealous at all (see previous answer), it’s just work and a means of paying the mortgage.
QueerClick Within the context of your relationship, do you guys keep it monogamous, or do you have the occasional three-way?
Jake Lewis A guy we once knew gave us a very good piece of advice which we have never strayed from: “Play together, stay together.” Yes, we have fun with other guys and couples on occasion but only ever together. We do not play separately. Personally I think once you start seeing guys on your own then you need to look at what’s happening in your relationship. That’s just my opinion though, and I know it works for others.
QueerClick How is sex on the set of a particular scene different than sex with your boyfriend?
Jake Lewis That’s easy… it doesn’t compare. No script, cameras in awkward places, boom mics. Stopping for pics etc. Real sex is not like that at all, when you’re alone together you have the intimacy and tenderness, or straight into the animalistic. You can’t replicate those kind of emotions on a set.
QueerClick Do you guys get recognized when you go out?
Jake Lewis I’ve only ever done a few scenes and Scott will testify that I’m really not into going out and doing the whole gay clubbing thing. It’s only been quite recently that Scott has managed to drag me out, so no I don’t get recognised. Scott does in the unlikeliest of places now and again, which is quite funny sometimes.
QueerClick Obviously maintaining any relationship can be hard. Do you guys have any particular tricks/tips for keeping the fire going?
Jake Lewis Talk, talk, and talk don’t let things stagnate. If you’ve got something on your mind, then off load it — otherwise it just wells up inside you and can destroy you. Scott knows me so well that he knows exactly what I’m thinking or that I’m about to say something. He knows only too well that when I say I’m not thinking anything or wasn’t going to say something that I’m lying. I guess that’s what happens when you’ve been together for has long as we have, he knows me inside and out.
QueerClick What’s the silliest fight you guys have ever had?
Jake Lewis In all honesty, we don’t fight. You could probably count the number of fights we’ve had over the years on your one hand. Yeah, I can get quick tempered or moody at times whereas I don’t speak and tend to stay silent, which then upsets Scott (I get that trait from my mum), but we’ve never ever really had a major blow-out, so to speak.
QueerClick Can our readers ever hope for a collaboration scene? Or maybe a sex tape?
Jake Lewis Already in the bag! We’ve only ever performed together once and that was for Hard Brit Lads and no, no sex tapes. I’d perform with Scott again but it would have to be totally unscripted and to leave us to ‘get at it’ like we know how to best.
QueerClick What’s the sweetest thing Scott has ever done for you? What about the sweetest thing you’ve ever done for him?
Jake Lewis To be honest we’re both softies, we like nothing more than to lay in bed spooning. It’s our favourite thing and I’ll often say to Scott that this is the best part of the day and he always falls asleep in my arms. Laying on the sofa cuddled up together watching TV is another of our favourite things. When I have to get up at 4am for work he’ll know that I’ve gone and he’ll have headed over to my pillow when I go give him a kiss goodbye. We never go anywhere separately unless we tell each other that we love them and he has to have his 3 kisses at the door or we can’t go anywhere. He really is such a sweet guy and I’d never want that to change.
There you have it, folks! Many thanks to Jake for sitting down with us. We wish these two all the best and hope for many, many more years/scenes together. These two are both incredibly sexy and genuine guys. Cheers!
