Ask QC: How Do I Tell People I’m into Kink

Dear Ask QC,

I’ve recently discovered that I’m much kinkier than I thought. Through some especially hot online hookups, I’ve recently done some experimenting with kink and fetish play and discovered that I absolutely love it. It’s some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had. Specifically, I love bondage and dom/sub play. The problem is, I’m having a hard time translating this newfound love off of the internet into the real world.

When I meet someone in a bar, it’s hard to broach the subject. Or even when I’m dating someone, how do I tell them that I want them to slap me or tie me down when they fuck me? It’s not that I’m afraid for people to find out, necessarily, it’s just that I have a hard time figuring out how to go about telling them. It feels sort of like coming out all over again! Any advice?

Thanks,

Tied Down

Hi Tied Down. Thank you so much for your question and concerns. That sounds like a bit of a sticky situation (no pun intended), but I think you’ve probably hit the nail on the head when you compared it to coming out. Except this time, you’re coming out with a collar around your neck! What advice do you have for him, QCers? Any stories you want to share about breaking the fetish-news to someone? Surely that has the potential to provide some pretty funny stories.
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