I’m an out gay man in my 20s and I just moved to a major metropolitan city. I don’t have any problem meeting guys necessarily; I go out to the bars on occasion and have a lot of gay friends. The problem is, I don’t actually like many of the people I’m meeting this way. I hesitate to say that I disidentify with the whole mainstream gay scene, because I really have made some good friends since I moved here, but on the whole it seems really vacuous to me. I have a hard time finding anything real, whether it’s friends, dates, or even conversations with strangers. My impression has been that most people are geared toward telling me how awesome they/their job is and finding their next trick.
Obviously I’m oversimplifying and making pretty sizable judgements, but I guess I’m wondering what I’m doing wrong. Am I looking in the wrong places? Where else might I look? Maybe I’m approaching with the wrong mindset? It’s also worth noting that I’m not just looking for dates — though I am looking for dates — but also friends and just a genuine good night out that doesn’t feel quite so plastic. Help me, QC!
Thanks,
Friendz4Eva
Hi Friendz4Eva. Thank you so much for your question and concerns. This is probably a problem that many of us can identify with in one way or another. First, I wonder if you’re not putting too much stock in bars and clubs (does anyone really make friends there)? Plus, if clubs aren’t your thing, just go do something else. You’re most likely to meet the kinds of people you want to meet when you’re doing the kinds of things you want to do, right? What advice do you have, readers? What’s the best way to change the kinds of people that you’re meeting? Share your wisdom! Need advice? Just send in your questions and the QCollective will get you some answers!
We can’t believe it’s June already. Is time moving faster as a part of some sort of government conspiracy to make us all old before our time? It is, isn’t it? Another scorcher gone by here on QueerClick.
Admittedly, we had a bit of a snafu with this week’s GHD. The contender turned out to be Vinny Castillo from Next Door Male, so the game was pretty much like shooting fish in a barrel. We just wanted to give you guys an easy one. You know, to give your dick-guessin’ eyes a break. We’ve got your best interests at heart!
How was your week, QCers? Appropriately lubricated, we hope.
Today the threeway continues and its Roger’s turn today. Roger Lambert is a fan-favorite who has not been seen since December. Thus today we have Roger back in a three-way with Vadim and Phillipe. This release from Bel Ami is just sensational.
This past weekend, the Grabby’s invaded Chicago, which is to say that all the best cocks and holes in the world were concentrated in one location. It’s a surprise there wasn’t a giant sinkhole by Lake Michigan. The Grabbys, as you might imagine, are like the Oscars for gay porn. Unlike the Oscars, however, the Grabbys are actually a fuckin’ blast.
The evening’s big winners were Cockyboys and Naked Sword, who both took home four awards. Cockyboys won big for Project GoGoBoy. Project GoGoBoy won Best Director (Jake Jackson), Movie of the Year, SteamWork’s Fan Favorite Movie, and Newcomer of the Year (Max Ryder, star of Project GoGoBoy). Check out acceptance speeches after the jump. Disclaimer: Unfortunately, Team QC missed the party this year, so all of these videos are secondhand from all over the blogosphere. Which is a shame, because it looks like we missed a hell of a party.
Tonight in the War Chest, we meet Dan, another new find from Mike. Dan is 22-years old, stands a compact 5’7″ tall and weighs 155 lbs. He’s from Seattle and promises to put on a good show for Mike.
Dan says he likes going to the gym to work out (“obviously” he says, considering his body). He likes dirt bikes and motocross, and anything outdoors: hunting, fishing, and so forth. Mike asks if Dan has a lot of girlfriends, and Dan chuckles, saying “kind of.”
Ben Rose was a bit shy to show us his unique form of self-gratification. VideoBoys got a hint of it a few months ago when he first showed them that he was capable of taking his balls and inserting them into his ass. But when his balls and just jerking off is not enough, Ben can do something that most of us assumed was physically impossible. He can fuck himself.
