Ask QC: Will my Fuck Buddy become exclusive?

Dear Ask QC,

I’m 22 years old, and have had a healthy and active sex life for a few years now since my late teens. Over time I discovered that I’m more bottom and love to get fucked. I’ve not really been dating seriously or even had a LTR before but recently met a guy earlier this year who has now become more than just a regular fuck buddy. We’ve been fucking regular for 9-10 months now 1-2 times a week and its more than just great :p

The thing is, I’ve fallen for him and when we first hooked up together we agreed that it would just be sex and nothing more. And now of course, here I am, I would really like this to be more than just that regular fuck once or twice a week.

When we initially hooked up we did lay out the ground rules, it was basically going to be just fuck and go so how do I now turn this around into something more permanent? My fear is that if I tell him he will say no way its just a fuck and then leave me for good. And I really dont want that to happen…

So, we’ve been getting along great, always have a lot of laughs together and we’re still both single (he’s 26 btw) but have both been hooking up with a few other different guys too, so I would want that to stop. In fact I’ve already stopped seeing other guys for sex (but not told him) but I know he has a few other regular buddies that he is seeing too. So if I say lets date steady and exclusively I have a feeling he will say lets keep things open the way they are and I don’t want that either, so herein lies my problem.

I have to say I feel a bit foolish asking this question here, but I’m hoping that there are some other guys out there who have succesfully moved on from being just fuck buddies and turning it into an LTR and monogamous relationship. Is this even possible or am I just dreaming?

Thanks,

Rogan

Hi Rogan and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns.. First off, don’t ever feel foolish for asking any type of question here – if you check the archives you will see everything under the sun (and more) has comes up here and there is always someone who will chip in and help with advice and answers. You’re right in thinking that there is a possibility too, for sure there will be some guys here who have managed to move on from being regular fuck buddies and into an exclusive relationship. While we know that everyones circumstances may be slightly different to yours, there will always be some similarities too in a situation like this. Men primarily think of sex first and relationships later right? So dear QC readers, what tips and advice can you give Rogan? Should he just remain fuck buddies or is the risk to move to a relationship too great? If you can help him in any way, then please share your wisdom and advice with all in the QComments section!
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