Ask QC: Straight Guy, Gay Sex

Dear QC,

I found this site totally by accident while researching questions I have about myself. I identify as a straight guy. I never think of doing sexual things to a guy, I don’t look at guys in a sexual way, I don’t look at gay porn and never jerk off thinking about guys. On the other hand, over this past year I’ve been hooking up with guys. I don’t do anything to them like kiss them or blow them or anything, it’s just them doing things to me or for me. I’ve been having sex with girls since I was 16 and I’m now 26. Never have I had a blow job as good as from a guy. Do girls just not know how to blow a guy well?

That is how all this started. About a year ago I was at a party and drank too much. This guy I talked to at the party offered me a ride home. I accepted and left my car at my friends house who had the party. When we got to my place this guy was complimenting everything about me. Then he told me he was gay and that he’d love to blow me. I laughed it off at first but then he started to describe how he was going to do it. It wound up getting me pretty horny and I let him do it and it was totally awesome. Since then I sometimes seek out experiences like this one. I’ve met guys who pretty much worship my body and do things to me that a girl has never done. I’ve had guys tongues up my butt, my armpits licked, my feet and toes sucked and licked. Guys have a passion that I’ve never seen in girls. I’ve even met one guy at happy hour after work who was 22, good looking and could probably get any guy he wanted but he offered to pay me to sniff and lick my underwear. I know that sounds crazy but we went back to his place and I let him do it while I watched him as he sniffed and licked my underwear while he jerked off.

Now I’m confused since I’m never sexually attracted to these guys. If I were gay or bi I’d be super cool about it but all my attraction is on girls. I’m never tempted or have any desire to do anything with a guy. I’m attracted to what they’re doing to me. But it’s not like I’m thinking about girls either while they do this, I’m always in the moment with these guys. I’m trying really hard to figure out what I am. I feel pretty alone because I wouldn’t know who to talk to about this and don’t think anyone would understand my situation. I honestly would appreciate help from people on this site, thanks.

Brian

Hi Brian and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. Firstly let me welcome you to QueerClick! We don’t discriminate here and have readers of both sexes, straight, bi, gay, transgender and every combination in between. Sexual identity doesn’t necessarily have to be categorized quite so specifically but luckily you’ve been open enough to experimentation and have experienced some sexual intimacy with other guys (and you would be surprised at how many straight guys try this out). Some may say that just by merely having sex with another man means that you are gay and others would disagree to this. As you don’t appear to be feeling any emotional attachment with guys but are enjoying the sexual pleasure then its understandable that you may be a little confused or conflicted by this. It’s great that you found QC and have reached out here for advice but please don’t feel so alone, we’re a community that is diverse, without prejudice, experienced and willing to share. So dear QC readers have any of you been in this situation before, either yourself or with another guy? If you can help Brian in any way, please share your advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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