Ask QC: I’m a 40 year old virgin

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Dear Ask QC,

I’m afraid I have become the proverbial “40 year old virgin”.

I’m not quite sure how this has happened, I want to change it but I don’t know how to or where to start. I love porn, and I’ve been fine with masturbating, I’ve even got some toys and play with my ass now and again.

Due to focusing on my career and being closeted for nearly all my life (I came out a couple of years ago), I’ve still never had sexual intercourse with a man. I don’t thing I’m weird and I’m average looking, a little overweight but not obese (started gymning again this year) and I think I have a good sense of humor. I’ve tried the bars and the apps but somehow I never get that far into a conversation or date that we go that final stage and fuck. I’m pretty sure the longer this goes on the harder its going to become and I want to be able to overcome this.

I have been dating guys younger than myself (I’m attracted to twinks) but they all seem so experienced and they all assume I will be some kind of sexual expert at my age. Sadly, I’m not, so I’m not sure what to do next. I was thinking of maybe hiring an escort to help and teach me how to fuck properly, do you think that’s possible or will they balk at the idea? I would consider my self a flexi, but I’m not even 100% sure of that until I’ve tried both ways.

I’d really appreciate some help with this – I’m starting to feel inadequate and a bit of a freak – help!

Best,

Leo

Hi Leo and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. The age that we lose our virginity varies, apart from having to be of legal age and physically capable there shouldn’t necessarily be any upper limit to this. Here at QC we like to think that there aren’t too many rules or rights and wrongs for sex, yes there are those that have had anal intercourse from very young in their lives and some a little older. The main thing is that having anal intercourse will take some practice and finding a suitable partner that will be patient with you in your certain situation may be a little challenging too. So dear QC readers, what advice would you give Leo? Have any of you experienced this before, does it really make any difference or not at what age you lose your virginity? If you have any ideas on how to help him with this issue then please share your thoughts, advice and experiences in the QComments section!

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Aug 03, 2015 By Tim 2 Comments