Ask QC: Do I Tell Her? Part Two

Ask QC: Do I Tell Her? Part One.

Dear QC,

Well I thought I would write back to let you know how things have developed, a LOT has happened over the last six weeks!

I also want to thank everyone for all the advice given, I was amazed at the response and the differing views everyone had on this, like I said it was a very difficult situation for me and I really had to think long and hard to consider whether I should tell her or not.

As it turns out, she caught him “at it” (although it was with another woman) and she threw the jerk out. I confided in her as soon as she told me that she had caught him being unfaithful, and although it hurt her a lot she said ultimately she was glad that I had told her about what he had been up to. She didn’t want to believe me at first as she really had no idea he had bisexual tendencies, but I even admitted to being turned on and tempted by him and she was cool about me actually admitting that. She said she realized something was up a while back and she had noticed me avoiding them (but especially him), I guess I wasn’t being as subtle as I thought afterall. It was a bit of a double shock for her I suppose but she is well rid of him!

So I just thought I would give you some feedback on this, I know every situation isn’t the same, but she said that I really should have told her earlier, not that she’s blaming me or anything, its been a dreadful and hurtful experience for her.
Thanks again everyone for your advice.
J.

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