Ask QC: Should I Come Out at Christmas?

Dear Ask QC,

I’ve been a big fan of QueerClick for years — love you guys!

A bit about me, I’m a 22-year-old guy and I’ve been keeping a big secret from my family for years. I’m gay, and I’ve finally reached a point where I feel ready to come out to them. With Christmas just around the corner and the whole family gathering for the holidays, I’m wondering if this might be the right time to share my truth, as I will return home for 2 weeks from college. On one hand, I’m excited about the prospect of finally being my authentic self around my loved ones. The thought of no longer having to dodge questions about girlfriends or pretend to be someone I’m not is incredibly appealing. Plus, having everyone together could mean I only have to do this once, rather than telling people individually.

However, I’m also terrified. My family is quite traditional and religious so I’m not sure how they’ll react. I don’t want to ruin Christmas for everyone if it goes badly. There’s also the fear that this news might overshadow the holiday and make things awkward or tense. I keep asking myself is Christmas the right time for this conversation? Should I wait until after the holidays? Or should I tell them before everyone gathers, so they have time to process?

I’m lost and could really use some advice on how to handle this situation. What do you think I should do? I’m really getting quite anxious about this so would appreciate everyones advice here.

Love and hugs for the holidays,

Jaden

Hi Jaden and thanks for the kind compliments. Coming out to family, friends and the world is a unique experience for all of us and we understand your concerns. We are sure our readers will be able to offer you help with this situation.

So dear QC readers, what advice would you give to someone coming out? Do you think it’s a good (or bad) idea to do this at Christmas and a family gathering? Please share your thoughts, advice and own experiences in the QComments section below!

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