Ask QC: First Time Tie Up

Dear QC,

I’m 24 years old and have been with my current partner for 2 years. Our sex life has been great, so far, but I want to spice it up and keep it exciting and fresh. We regularly fuck (both versatile) and have done it pretty much in every area of our home and at different times of the day as and when!

I was thinking about tying up my partner and edging him or fucking him, but I want to make this exciting and a surprise rather than a sort of calculated thing. Not having tried bondage before, I actually wondered whether this would be too much of a shock/surprise for my partner or is it even considered rape (for example) if I haven’t discussed it with him first.

Like I say we have been together for 2 years (and actually known each other for longer than that), but will I be doing anything really wrong if I make this a surprise in the bedroom or do you think I should discuss it first with him? My feeling is that this will ruin the element of surprise and take away the spontaneity and excitement of it, but I’m a bit concerned if he freaked out over it.

Has anyone done this before and any suggestions?
Kyle.

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