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How exciting Andy!! I remember my first time ever was with my partner and it was a GREAT experience! It helped that my partner had bottomed before and was able to tell me exactly what he wanted me to do. The best advice I can give you is to talk openly with your partner about everything. Make sure they know it's your first time. There's NOTHING to be ashamed of. Also, a lot of the advice you've been finding (for bottoming) also applies to you. Relax, take it slow, PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER and above all, be safe. I wish you the best of luck and HAVE FUN!

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Hmm, my was a top on my first time too. I didn't enjoy it too much on my first time. But my advice to you is this... Remember it takes two to do this. I would enjoy it and take your time. Go with the flow. I did ask questions along the way. Make sure your partner enjoys it just as much as you do. As for me, I would go slower in the beginning. The pressure isn't as high for a top. So be gentle, relax and be yourself. Listen to your partner. Communicate with him throughout. Who knows maybe he wants it fast and rough. Meet in between if you guys don't want to same thing. It is supposed to be fun!

(I didn't communicate too well on my first time. And my partner sure was more experienced and aggressive than I was.)

I am not sure ...but how you will know that you are a top? In my first years of to be gay and have gay sex i don't like analsex anyway for me it need realy 4 years to find my way and need a lot of experience in both way's ...in future you will meet nice guy's they problaty top's and wond to fuck you...if you have bottom experience before you don't like and you tell them they will tell you "...oh they don't know how to make but i know i will show you and you will like it..."! Top's mostley don't pay so much attention to the partner because they realy think they are the greatest...specialy... when its a one nightstand. My advice is take it openmindet,speek with your partner about sexuality, be honest, take care of your partner you can feel what he like and what not.

Ditto on what the previous individuals have advised. Just please, take it really slow, particularly in the beginning. Nothing in worse for a bottom when the top assumes that they can just dive in or in this case, shove it in and start thrusting. Slow and steady wins the race :) Enjoy!

As a bottom, I would say that the previous advice given is right on!

well, any gay man should try (atleast) bottoming.
i believe it is important to explore both ends of the sex game . . .

i find both topping and bottoming very exciting and very stimulating.
my advice to you though:
make sure you are clean aka have an anema done b4 you get into heavy fricition sex
butt plague play helps loosen up your ass - highly recommended
poppers poppers and more poppers work the best for me to get me in the bottoming mood and mode

Not that he asked about bottoming....but.... Seriously? Poppers? Are we advocating drug use now? You know, if poppers don't really work for you...you could always go straight to crystal meth or cocaine too. Ok, enough sarcasm...

While the long term effects of poppers are widely disagreed about, let's talk about the fact that we're altering your state of consciousness in order to facilitate a sexual encounter. Not only that, we’re altering it which can seriously affect your judgment. I can't believe that as a community who suffers from constant stigma, and horrible diseases that are spread (sadly, often) through the immaturity and complete lack of judgment anyone would still advocate this type of behavior not to just any other person, but to a young guy who wants to have his first anal sex encounter! I think that if you have to take a mind altering substance to get you in "the mood" or to make your body capable of performing a specific action then maybe it's not really your cup of tea. I personally don't like bottoming...therefore, I don't do it. My partner and I have tried it in the past numerous times but it's just not a pleasurable experience for me and so we shrug and move on. I am just floored to see that comment on here.

QC Editors...This is my opinion but, I find it reprehensible, and irresponsible that you approved that comment.

Something no one has yet mentioned... do not stick your cock all the way in upon entry. Ease into it. In my experience, ramming the cock deeply on the first thrust isn't too appealing to the btm.

Other stimulation while you are thrusting: kissing, nipple play/sucking and stroking your partner's cock are good.

Hope your first time is a great experience !!!

I wasnt awair that poppers were a controled substance.

You know what dont drink before you have sex either. Who would want to have an altered state like then when having sex.

In fact stay home dont have sex, dont try anything.

aazhdeen, while I completely agree with you that no one should be offering this advice (taking poppers) to a young man seeking advice, I think the QC Editors might have approved it because of this whole Freedom of Speech thing. While avocation of illegal action is not protected by the US Constitution, nothing should stop someone from saying what works for them. I do think that the QC Editors should have at least posted it with the caveat that taking drugs to "get you in the mood" is bad advice that is best left ignored.

As a bottom myself it's nice to have your partner check with you that you like what they're doing and that you are ok throughout. Other than that take it slow until you've got him warmed up and communicate throughout.
Enjoy it though and as others have said you might wanna try bottoming, you never know you might love it!

my first time he gave me a massage and blowjob to warm me up to his touch and pace. and a started to give him a massage to find out where he liked to be touched, teased, or manhandled. i tried rimming but i had no clue what i was doing and then he said please fuck me im so ready. i eased in slowly and couldn't believe how warm and tight it was. every stroke was brand new to me and i lasted two hours and 4 orgasms. oh to be 20 something again