Ask QC: How To Come Out?
Dear QueerClick
I’m 21 years old and at college and have been dating my boyfriend steady now for over a year. I really love him dearly and would love him to meet my family but I haven’t yet “come out” to them. This last holiday period was really difficult, especially all the innuendo from relatives about girl friends and even marriage!
I was wondering if you and the readers could assist with some ideas in helping me come out to my parents, family and friends? I realize that everyone has different experiences but I’m pretty sure coming out to friends at college won’t be a problem – it’s the family that I’m concerned about, especially my Dad and Mom who are quite religious (not that I have ever heard them make homophobic statements). I have a younger sister who, I think kinda suspects I’m gay and I get along well with her – would it be a good idea to come out to her first separately?
Any advice is most welcome.
In The Closet.
I’m 21 years old and at college and have been dating my boyfriend steady now for over a year. I really love him dearly and would love him to meet my family but I haven’t yet “come out” to them. This last holiday period was really difficult, especially all the innuendo from relatives about girl friends and even marriage!
I was wondering if you and the readers could assist with some ideas in helping me come out to my parents, family and friends? I realize that everyone has different experiences but I’m pretty sure coming out to friends at college won’t be a problem – it’s the family that I’m concerned about, especially my Dad and Mom who are quite religious (not that I have ever heard them make homophobic statements). I have a younger sister who, I think kinda suspects I’m gay and I get along well with her – would it be a good idea to come out to her first separately?
Any advice is most welcome.
In The Closet.
What say you, dear QC readers? Should In The Closet come out to his friends and sister first? What’s the best way to do so? Please feel free to share your own experiences to help him in the comments section.
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Jan 15, 2008
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