Ask QC: I Wanna Top!

Dear QC,

I’m 27 and going out with a great, handsome guy. We’re monogamous and very much into each other. We’ve been dating for about six months and go to bed and wake up usually kissing, sucking, and jerking each other off. My dick stays hard throughout… until he mentions sex.

The instant he says “Fuck me,” I get real nervous and go limp. Even when I put my cock anywhere near his ass, I’ll go soft within seconds. It’s a real shame especially since he’s got a great ass and a good attitude. He hasn’t pressured me or made me feel bad, but I want to top him and am getting frustrated—he wants it bad and I’m tired of always being the bottom.

All the books and websites call it “performance anxiety” but I don’t know what to do. I topped my ex two or three times after a lot of failed attempts. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I’ll need Viagra, hypno- or sex-therapy just to fuck the guy I like. Meanwhile, all my other gay friends seem to fuck with no problem.

What should I do?

Alex

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