Ask QC: Break-Up Etiquette?

Dear Ask QC,

My boyfriend of three years just left me in the worst way. He texted me while I was at work to say it was over and when I returned to our apartment, he’d moved out all his stuff. Now he won’t respond to my calls or texts and I’m hurt, sad, and so fucking angry!
We’d been fighting off-and-on for several months and yeah, I made some mistakes but I wasn’t stealing, doing heroin, or cheating on him. If anything we were just growing apart. I know “all’s fair in love and war” and that clean break-ups are rare, but is what he did in any way warranted?
My friends say “good riddance” and I agree, but I’d never break up with someone like that—it’s devastating. I’m curious if your readers agree and if there are any “rules” when it comes to breaking up. My ex reads this site and I’m hoping the discussion will vindicate either one of us.
High and dry,
Luke

Huh… it may be hard to give advice without knowing the details, but what do you think, QC readers? Is it OK to break-up with someone however you like or do you owe a long-term lover more respect? Please share your experiences and advice in the comments section.
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