Ask QC: Thinking Of Others In Bed

Dear QC,

I love looking at men. Out in public I just about give myself whiplash turning my head to check out every hot guy who passes. I “read” QueerClick several times a day and watch porn just about every time I jerk-off.

Here’s the thing though: I find myself thinking about other men—particularly other guys I’ve fooled around with—whenever I’m fooling around with my boyfriend. My boyfriend’s hot, I love his body, and he’s good, giving, and game, but these days I have to imagine others just to cum. Does that make me a creep or a cheater?

Part of me thinks it’s OK but part of me worries what it might mean. Doesn’t everybody fantasize in bed? Is it OK to think about other guys when you’re with someone else? I’m not looking to break up or cheat or anything, but could my fantasies be an indicator of something else? I worry that if I ever told my boyfriend, he’d be angry with me or think that he’s not enough, which seems unfair. What do you think?

Yours,
Raymond

What do you think, QC readers? Is too much of a good thing bad or should Ray get his head out of the porn and into his boyfriend? Please feel free to share your own experiences and advice to help him in the comments section.
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