Ask QC: Should I Hit On My Friend?

We get questions like this every now and then, but this one comes from a younger member of our QCommunity, Fuzzy at QueerClique:

Right so… My name is Jake. I’m 19 and I live in Ireland. I have a little problem and would like some advice!

I have known that I am gay since I was 13 but I have acted straight since then. I have never had a girlfriend. One of the guys in my class (who we all knew was gay from the first day that we met) has come out to us. He is one of my good friends and I think he knows that I am gay. But most of the time I cant stand to be around him because he annoys the hell out of me! I also think other people are starting to suspect me.  Nothing has happened between us…yet!

Last November  we were at one of my friend’s birthdays and I was driving us home. About 5 minuets from his house, he starts asking me if I like this girl. Then out of the blue he asks me if I would ever have sex with a guy! My reply was “It depends.”

A few months later in January, it was his birthday. A group of us went bowling and back to his house afterwards. As a group we watched DVDs and danced to music. It turned out that I was the only one spending the night at his house. After everyone had left it was just the 2 of us. You could nearly cut the sexual tension with a knife. After about 2 hours of playing on the Wii we decided to go to bed. I was so close to walking into his bedroom while he was getting changed but I didn’t.

Just as I got into bed he walked into my room and said “Can I ask you something?” I said sure. Then he said “Nevermind, it’s embarrassing,” and got up and walked out. Since then I have often visualized us doing various things to each other and wondered what would have happened if I had asked him “What’s embarrassing?”

So my question to you all is what do I do now? Any advice will be considered. I am confused and I need help!

Thanks for reading.

Young attraction and crushes can be awkward, especially when you find yourself paired up with an unlikely lover. What should our Irish friend do? Should he hit on his openly gay (but annoying) pal or should he set his sites elsewhere? If he decides to make a move, what’s the best way to begin? And if he doesn’t, what should he do next? Please share your experiences and advice in the QComments section or on Fuzzy’s blog.