Ask QC: He’s Blogging About Our Relationship Behind My Back!

Dear QC,

For the last 6 months, I have been living with my partner. We are both 30. Recently, I discovered that he has a blog that he has been secretly keeping ever since we started living together. In it, he writes about the highlights of his life, including all the not-so-nice bits that include me. Our occasional quarrels and disagreements are often blogged about in detail with the natural biases that one tends to have. In addition to this one-sided account of events, other sensitive details of my life are exposed, such as references to my health problems, my social life and other shortcomings that I may possess. He also includes (unflattering) photos of me. Last, but not least, he actually uses my name in the blog!!!

I am shocked at what he has done. I feel extremely violated. I almost feel as if this is far worse than if I caught him cheating on me. As this blog is read by his friends (and god knows who else on the net), I must appear like public enemy number one. Is he out to make me look bad or does he simply have no regard for my privacy? I have not confronted him and I am not sure what to do. Some part of me feels like I should not be with a person who claims to love me, but does not respect me. How will I ever trust him again?

Public Enemy Number One

We’re all for sharing, but there’s such a thing as too much! The writer doesn’t mention if he loves this guy or what all is at stake, but what do you think? Should PENO take his boyfriend’s blogging in stride, simply talk to him about it and ask him to be more discreet, or should he DESTROY HIM, break up, and threaten to sue? So many options… oh, it’s love American style! What would you do? Please share your comments, experience, and advice in the comments section.