Ask QC: I really like my best friend but I dont want to scare him away

Hi QC,

So I’m living the old story about having a crush on my best friend, but at the same time this is a very different kind of story because we were “fuck buddies” for 2 years before we had a real friendship.

Since last September we started hanging out together on a regular basis, talking just about everything for hours at a time, going to concerts, doing lunch. Just doing normal friend stuff minus the sex, but then he started seeing this guy and has been dating him for the last 4 months.

From what we have talked about and from what I can see, he is now really unhappy. His head says ¨get out of this relationship¨ but his heart says ¨I cant – I’m too in love¨. His boyfriend is not here nor there sometimes, although he is really nice and attentive sometimes, most of the time he is like “whatever”.

Its not like I want them to break apart either, I tell myself everyday that everything is going to be fine and work out in the end. But sometimes during our conversations, he says. ¨I need somebody to come and rescue me out of this relationship¨!

So now I don’t know if he is throwing me hints and whether I should step up and say something… or is just a comment he’s making?

I’m really terrified that if I say something to him then he will react badly and stop being friends. I would literally die in my heart if that happened and I wouldn’t be able to take that pain of losing him… what should I do?

Please help, I’m so confused!!!

DP

Hi DP and thanks for writing in with your questions and concerns. So dear QC readers what advice would you give? It’s obvious that DP has deep feelings for his best friend but how would you handle this situation? Have you experienced being in a situation like this before? How did things work out? If you can help DP in any way, then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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