Ask QC: First Time and No Condom Involved

Dear QC,

A few days ago me and a friend tried having anal sex for the first time. We did something really stupid though and that was doing it without a condom.

I know this guy and he’s always been very honest and both of us know that we haven’t done anal with another dude ever. But I’m really scared, because even though it was our first time, I don’t want to get a STD or anything worse. I have never had a STD before.

I really don’t know what to do or think, because it wasn’t even really sex, as far as I know. He only got 2 thrusts in me and after that I said stop.

I want to get tested now, but I really need to know if there is a risk that I could be HIV+ or not.

Please help me.

Dave

PS: Please excuse any errors in the text, for I am not an American or UK-citizen.

Hi Dave and thanks for writing in with your concerns, and yes we get letters from all nationalities so there is no need to worry about your text! (which was fine by the way) We all know that when having sex, particularly anal intercourse, its much safer practice to wear a condom. But also, we are all human and all make choices or mistakes for one reason or another. We are not here to condone or judge but to offer counsel, so dear QC readers what advice would you give? Have you ever been in similar situation? Did you get tested immediately? Or did you abstain from sex and then wait for the 3 month period before taking the HIV test? What are your opinions on sex without condoms and testing for STD’s? If you can help Dave in any way, or have been in a similar situation before then please leave your opinions, experiences, and advice in the QComments section.
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